Divorce and it's emotional effects

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One of the many institutions God created and has established on the planet earth is marriage. This can be seen in the holy scripture when God said, “ it's not good for man to be alone, let's help him.” This help meet is the woman that came out of man.

So, marriage as an institution is an act of God and it's one of the foremost institutions created by God. Marriage is an honourable thing that should be cherished by both partners, but nowadays, the reverse is the case as people now get married today and the next day, divorce is on the table, that's where we have found ourselves.

Marriage, which is the coming together of both man and woman like I said before, it's an institution of God on earth and not only that, it's meant to bring two people of different backgrounds together. Though, their coming together might be kind of inconvenient as they're of different orientation and upbringing, but with time, if they can try and tolerate each other, then the purpose of marriage which is to achieve great and good things together would be made manifest, but if they fail to work things out, then…

The last statement of mine in the last paragraph would lead me to the discussion on the topic before us in proper. One thing about marriage is understanding. So, when and where there's better understanding between two matured persons that have come together to spend the rest of their lives together, there would be love and happiness which would strengthen their union.

But, where there's no understanding and tolerance, there would be chaos and violence which would at the end lead to divorce. Marriage is all about love, trust, understanding and respect. These four things are the four pillars that can uphold marriage, when these four are missing, then the marriage is heading towards divorce.

In marriage, there should be respect, mutual understanding, trust and love. The lack of these four is the cause of divorce in nowadays marriages.

I have seen marriages that have worked and more also, I have also seen a collapsed marriage relationship. One of those marriages I have seen collapsed was that of our neighbors.

It happened that Mr and Mrs Ara were so friendly when we first met with them in the year 2010, both of them had good jobs and lovely children and they were so lovely and accommodating. Their marriage and home were spectacular to the people living in the neighborhood and almost every couple in the neighborhood also used their marriage as a model.

So, this family was really enjoying the joy of good marriage, but late in the year 2011, the unexpected happened. Though, what happened between the man and the woman was not that clear to people within the neighborhood, but the rumors going around as at then was that, the man was caught in an extra marital affairs by the woman and with what the woman had found out about the man, there was a breach of trust between them and this led to the fallout of their marriage which later led to divorce.

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When the news of their divorce broke out, it's a rude shock to many of the people within the neighborhood including myself and not only that, people were really disappointed that the once happy family had turned into a scattered family. This was so pathetic as to what would become of the beautiful girls and handsome boys given birth to through the once rosy and happy family.

Hmmm, the divorce that took place between the father and the mother really got to the children and even the parents but there was nothing to be done about it as the issue got out of hand and could not be settled by both families and the church. Though, the children were put into the custody of their mother, and she really did well in taking care of the children. Also, the father also did well in paying up the Bill's of the children. But all these could not actually heal the wound created by the divorce most especially in the lives of the children as they were being raised by a single mother.

Though the father later got married to the woman he was caught having an affair with and later gave birth to 2 more children, his estranged wife didn't get married again as she was stocked with her four children.

So, divorce is not a crime nor a sin and it's better to get separated when the need be so as to avoid untimely death that may come from domestic violence as a result of the strange change in the habit or character of one's spouse as can be seen in the change in the character of mr Ara. So, it's good to embrace divorce when the need be.

This is my entry to the week 165, Edition 01 of the weekly Featured contest in the Hive Learners community.

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