DECISION: ONE MAN'S MEAT

Good evening my Hive family, for me, I will say decision taking has been the most tasking thing ever. This is because no decision is taking in isolation even when it is a personal one. In fact, to me, there's no personal decision because what we call our own personal decision will in one way or the other affects others. So when taking that your next decision, make sure you put others into consideration and most importantly, do not offend yourself to please others while taking your the decision because it might be a total doom. When I saw this week prompt , I was excited to share my thought on a particular personal decision I took a year ago. It was a decision regarded my wedding ceremony, which I had last year December. In the course of the planning, even when I knew there were enough resources to sponsor a lavish wedding, I decided to go for a lowkey but a beffiting one I envisaged where I would only invite 50 people from my side and the same number from the bride's side which would include both our family, friends and relatives. To this , I and my fiance now my beautiful wife agreed and we started planning towards the success of our day. Hmmm! After taking the decision, I and my fiance decided to table our plans to the two families and when my mum heard about our decision, she got angry and flared up, saying she would not be a party to that decision of ours, she even categorically told me to count her out of those people that would be attend the ceremony. Although, she had her reasons which include me being the firstborn of the family. I didn't expect less from her anyways. she is a social person that belongs to many clubs in the society. She believed she has done for people and that this is her own time to be paid in turn. 'Well maybe not on my own ceremony. Thank God I still have a younger brother', I chuckled. My father was not also happy about my decision, he however understood and respect my opinion but my mum would not . We all tried persuading my mum but all to no avail, later we called on her elder sister (mama Ondo), who helped us begged and persuaded her to shift grounds. She was bent on her decision but later agreed on a condition that she would be allowed to sell Aso ebi ( uniform attire to her friends that would be coming even if they are five). 'Not necessary', I thought but we all consented to her wish to sell attire. But I stood my ground on them not Inviting the whole nation. What of my in-laws? My mother-in-law and my mother supposed to be twin sisters. This is because when my fiance also got home to relay our decision to her parents, the same scene that happened at our house also presented itself in my in-laws house. I started having restless nights, I didn't want to have problems with my soon to be in_law. Thank God for my father-in-law, Pa Thomas Kobiowu whom for his timely intervention calmed my mother_in_law, Mrs Kobiowu nerves. That was how both families partially supported our decision. Also, some friends were not so happy with our decision, some of those were invited even refused to come, just because they felt the wedding would be uninteresting. They wanted it to be an extravagant party, and 'one in town kind of wedding'. Some even refused to congratulate us for the wedding ceremony. Just because I took the decision I considered best for my fiance and I.

However, we were not moved by what they stand for because our slogan has always been, 'we are us'. So for this reasons, my fiance and I decided to put everything in place , the venue was a class and everything needed for the success of the wedding in terms of food, drinks, cake , clothes just mention it was carefully and properly catered for. The D day, 23rd December, 2023 came as expected and everything went as it was planned. The people that came for this our glorious day were so surprised about what was on ground, they couldn't believe their own eyes, even though it was a lowkey wedding ceremony, all the people that came to the ceremony had everything in abundance, nobody complained of anything, everything and everywhere was organized and colorful.

What a glorious day was the statement people were saying up and than. My mum and my wife's family were happy we could make something beautiful out of less. It was a colorful event . Everybody ate and even took packages home.

Thank God we were not put to shame. After the wedding, A friend from the United states,Femi called and he was like, Sam, what you did was bad why did you have to tell me lie that you're are doing a lowkey wedding, he said that, from what he has seen and heard about our day, it's not a lowkey wedding but big event but I immediately replied him that what he has seen and was a lowkey wedding but organized and well plan event but Femi will not agree with me. At the end, I and my wife (mrs Akintade Aanuoluwapo) are now living together fulfilling our dreams. We didn't waste but still had in abundance after wedding, and this was because we were able to cut cost and save. That savings was what I used to open a wear store for my beautiful wife. What a glorious wedding ceremony! No unnecessary wastage. The mission was accomplished! The Wedding is gone. Now, I'm bridging the gap brought by our differences. Till today, I'm still reaching out to those that felt offended not to take it to heart. After all, we disagree to agree. All photos are mine.

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