BETRAYAL

Have you ever been betrayed before? Of all the things I despise on an emotional, physical and mental level, betrayal stands at the top. Just as I despise being betrayed by someone, I try as much as possible not to do the same thing to others and I can attest that I haven't done that to anyone.i don't know about you, but to me, betrayal feels like stabbing a knife straight into the heart, shattering every resolve, trust, love and believe you ever had towards someone or something.

Some people tend to betray you because of the conditions and situations they find themselves and the only way out is for them to sell you out, by spilling all your secrets, your future plans that you shared with them and even your current position on things especially if something good has happened to you or it's on the way.

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There are so many reasons for betrayal to occur when you lest expect it to, and sometimes the reason behind that betrayal can be trivial or even nonexistent. Insecurity and low self-esteem can be another reason. Some people believe that if they are not in control of your life, as in, if they are not manipulating you for their benefits, they won't feel good and better about their self. That type of behaviour often time's is driven by a need for validation, acknowledgement, visibility and also the fear of rejection.

But how about those that are the victims of the betrayal? The shock and trauma of not expecting such betrayal often time's are relieved, thereby affecting and impacting the person's daily life. Some even fall deeply into depression and anxiety, making them question theirselves on what the problem was, why did they not see it coming and sometimes even feel inadequate, shame and even blaming themselves for that outcome.

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Personally I have been betrayed so many times and I have learnt to be very cautious when dealing with people, as a result of that, I always give people benefit of doubt, allowing things to flow naturally without expecting much from them, because I know my expectations about them might also betray me when things don't work out.

Because I have gone through betrayal so many time's, I know how much it hurts to see people shatter your trust for them, promises broken, deepest secrets spilled as if it wasn't meant to be a secret from the beginning and even loyalty feels feeble to the ears. But all this has taught me lessons and helped me grow both emotionally and mentally.

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I can say for certain that my way of life and my upbringing has helped me to always see the bigger picture in things rather than act rationally in situations like that. I don't much friends around me but I am contented with the few I have because I know how trustworthy and loyal they are regardless of situations and circumstances.

"Don't repay evil with evil" and also "Do to others as you will have them do to you", those are verses from the bible and these are my guiding principles in life. What I don't want others to do to me, I won't do it to anyone.

Thank you for reading and I hope you enjoyed yourself.