Don't explain your pain to anyone.
Sometimes I wonder if we are really good. But we are constantly acting good. Inside, I am breaking down and falling apart. I can't explain to anyone how much I am in pain. Actually, I don't feel the need to explain to anyone because those who understand will understand and those who don't understand, even if you write an essay, nothing will enter their mind. This is not some kind of story. This is the reality. When your loved ones don't give you importance, it is better to increase your distance from them because you will understand who has hurt you and who has not understood you. Loneliness is not a terrible disease, but there is no medicine for being alone. When you are alone, you will understand who loves you and who comes close to you just to see you.
Even when you are in a crowd of thousands of people, when you think about your well-being, you will see that some people neglect and despise you, which is not right at all. We have to be well in our lives because we will not benefit from constantly keeping those who have not thought about keeping us well. This is the reality. You are constantly giving your time to your family. You are spending your time after them, but at the end of the day, when you fall ill, there is no one to look after you. You will lie in bed for no more than 20 to 25 days. You will see that some people in your family will think about how to give your husband another one, that is, they will think about how to keep their family running. From here, do you understand whether they really love you or are constantly using you.
Where is the selfishness of people? I will try to explain to you. Some people keep tissues in their group pockets for their interests. They keep expensive pens in their chest pockets. When the tissue is used up, they throw it on the street. When the ink in the pen runs out, they throw it away wherever they want. They don't even think about how much work I have done with this pen. They don't even think about how much money I have earned with this pen. They throw it away after finishing their needs. Just like in the case of people, as long as you are useful to them, they will show you so much love that you will never imagine. Whenever your needs are over, they will throw you away like that tissue or that pen without ink. Do you know why there is joy in being alone? Because when you are alone, no one will tell you anything. It is not said in words. When you are silent, your enemies will decrease. A mute has no enemies because he cannot speak. A blind person cannot see anything. He does not see the faces of the worst people in the world. Some think that they are the best.
Don't write an essay to explain your feelings to someone. In one of our beloved Huzoor Sayeedi Huzoor's sermons, I heard him say that on Eid day, everyone who is blind or mute, but everyone who is disabled, goes to the Eid field to beg. Many such people were present at the Eid field. A blind person stood only in the gate of the Eid field and said that today is Eid day but I can't see anything. I can't enjoy this joy. Every person in the Eid field was looking at him and felt that if we were blind, then we would never be able to enjoy the light, air or beauty of this world. Everyone came forward to help him. What did you understand from this? If you write an essay to someone, they will understand how much trouble you are in. Never do this. Try to understand through a small amount of words. Those who understand will easily give you importance and those who don't understand, it is not an essay. Even if you write the whole world, they won't understand.
Pain kills people when a person is in pain. Then his sleep at night becomes forbidden, he tries a thousand times but cannot sleep, he only has one dream, then his pain will end, his heart is bursting but he cannot explain it to anyone, he is in pain, he is breaking down in tears but he cannot explain it to the people at home. Many people say that if you are patient, everything will be fine, but how long can you be patient? They say that day after day, the person burns inside and cries. So much time is seen that person thinking that it is better to die than to live in this world, then he thinks about how much pain that person has suffered, thinking about dying, there are some people among us who only like to hurt people, but Allah makes people hurt when we forget Him. I think that we should remember Allah every moment of our life.
Pain will leave our lives one day, you know when we will leave this world. I have seen some people with a lot of diseases in their bodies, suffering so much that it is impossible to explain, especially if I talk about my elder mother, the amount of pain she suffered. To tell the truth, sometimes she would tell us why Allah is giving me so much pain, why is he not taking me from this world? After listening to her, I would say, "Why are you saying such things? Inshallah, everything will be fine." But after she died, all her diseases disappeared and there was no more pain. She is no longer shouting, she is not trying to convince anyone, she is not telling anyone to bring medicine for me, so I believe that all our pain will go away. To get rid of pain, we have to wait until death. The day we die, everything will end.
Don't explain your pain to anyone.