No one wants to understand the suffering of girls.
You don't feel ashamed to marry a girl at the age of 15, but you easily forget how much pain you had to give birth to her. Raising a girl from a young age is not that easy. But of course, respecting a girl is a big deal. Not only family, but also your loved ones never respect girls. Everyone in the rural areas thinks that boys are the light of the house and they will be useful in the future, but in some families, I found that girls have made their family's name bright, does that mean that girls can't do anything? I don't know exactly how much girls can and can't do, but I believe that if a girl tries, she can change not only her family but the entire country and the entire society.
When a girl child is born in a family in our society, someone starts talking about her saying that this girl has been born, who will destroy the family? If there was a son, it would have been better, he would have been chosen as the leader of the family. But can't girls grow up to fulfill every dream of their family? They are not given a path to fulfill that dream. The amount of money spent on educating a boy and the amount of work put into him, if you give half of it to a girl, she will risk everything to fulfill your every dream. But how many men among us are there who will never accept their daughter as a bad person? They have always thought that only one medicine has been given to them: girls can never achieve success.
In our patriarchal society, girls cannot say much, but yes, girls can fulfill all their dreams as well as their family's dreams from behind the curtain. Many people say that nothing will happen to this girl. You spend so much money on your child, your son, no matter how much trouble you put in for a girl, she will try to keep your family very beautiful. One goal of people in our society is that when a girl is 15 or 16, get her married. We don't need to know where she has been. 15 or 16 is the age of a girl, she has just started to understand. You are suddenly getting her married, not trying to listen to her thoughts, not trying to understand what she really wants. Yes, I agree that all girls are not the same because some girls never think about fulfilling their parents' dreams or fulfilling their own dreams.
You got your daughter married, then her family started to be in turmoil and the girl is constantly living in that turmoil. Maybe when she can't bear it, she tries to reach your ears with some words but you pretend not to hear them and throw them away. Have you ever thought about how much pain that girl has suffered and then presented her pain to you? Some families don't have time to think about all these things. Their only concern is that the girl has grown up, I got her married, how is she doing now, it's her business, I don't need to know anything. On the other hand, there are some parents who always try for their daughter's happiness and try to keep her well, but in order to keep her well, some families destroy their own daughter's family.
They know how to destroy, they always try to make their daughter happy, okay, I am ready to accept this much, but when they try to keep it too good, my daughter will be with me, my son-in-law will be with me, my daughter will not be able to live in the in-laws' house and will not be able to do any work, nothing will happen to her, it is better to refrain from all these completely excessive things. Maybe she herself knows very well what your daughter can and cannot do, how she can keep her in-laws and mother-in-law well, how she can keep her brother-in-law and husband in front, it is her responsibility, when she has taken this responsibility on her shoulders, how to fulfill this responsibility, let her understand why you are interfering in her, it is actually not right at all, it has become something extra. Yes, okay, you want your daughter to be happy, it does not mean that your daughter will be happy only if she is with you.
In the end, what happens is that the girl's family breaks up, gets divorced, gets divorced, and when she returns to her father's house, she realizes how terrible it is to live in her father's house. She constantly has to hear all kinds of harsh words from her mother, all kinds of unfair demands from her brother, which she never wanted to do. Sometimes, her father also speaks to her in a very bad way, which she never expected. Her mother tells her that she can maintain her family because her nature is not good. Is it really always the fault of the girls? I never believe this. Some families also destroy their families. I heard from the mouth of a divorced sister that she said that if she could return to her husband's house for everything in the world, she would never stay in touch with anyone from her father's house or any other person as long as she lives.
So see how hard a girl is living in her father's house and says that her father's house is beautiful until marriage, but it is much better to leave this world than to return to that house after marriage and get divorced. Girls can change everything, girls can sacrifice their beautiful life for others. Girls can always try to maintain their family, they always want to be well, to live beautifully with their family and the people around them, but because of the nature of some people, their well-organized family is destroyed. That is why many people say that if you have to dive into dirty water with your own intelligence, there is no problem in that. However, if you do not go diving into the sea with the intelligence of others, then there is a high possibility that your life will be destroyed.