The lies we tell ourselves.

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Common lies we tell ourselves are as follows:
“I’ll do it tomorrow.” “I’m fine.” “I’ve got this.” “I just need five more minutes of sleep.” “It’s not that big a deal.” “I don’t care what they think.” “This is just how I am.” “Once this is over, everything will fall into place.” “If I ignore it, it’ll go away.”
To us, these sound like the truth in the moment. They offer a some kind of comfort, like a soft blanket on a cold day. But often, underneath these words, something entirely different is stirring.

“I’ll do it tomorrow” might mean “I’m overwhelmed and afraid I’ll fail.”
“I’m fine” could be covering up pain, confusion, or even numbness.
“I’ve got this” sometimes masks our fear of asking for help.
And “I don’t care what they think” might be our armour against rejection or judgment.

Why We Tell These Lies-
Psychologically, many of these lies are defense mechanisms. They help us cope with things we’re not ready to face. Sometimes, they’re little pep talks in disguise. We tell ourselves we’re okay because we need to believe it to keep going.
They act like emotional bubble wrap, protecting our most fragile truths from the hard edges of reality. And in that way, they serve a purpose.

When These Lies Help-
There’s a strange kind of magic in telling yourself, “I can do this,” even when you’re not sure. It’s a way of planting seeds of confidence. Sometimes, you have to fake belief before you grow into it.
Lies like “I’m fine” can get us through moments when breaking down isn’t an option, when we need to function, show up, or keep moving.
These lies can buy us time until we’re strong enough to face the full truth.

When They Start to Hurt-
But not all lies are harmless. Repeating “I’m okay” can delay healing. “This is just how I am” can keep us stuck in patterns that hurt us and others.
If we always say “tomorrow,” tomorrow never comes.
If we always say “I don’t care,” we may stop forming genuine connections.
If we ignore the pain, it breakdown. If we silence our needs, we start to vanish from our own lives.

So What Do We Do?
We don’t have to eliminate all the little lies, we’re human. But we can start catching them when they come up. We can ask ourselves: Is this really true? What am I trying to avoid? What would happen if I told myself the truth gently?

There’s power in replacing the lie with a softer truth.
“I’m not fine, but I’m trying.”
“I’m scared, but I’ll take one small step.”
“I don’t know what I’m doing, but I’m open to learning.”
“That hurt me, and it’s okay to feel it.”
These truths don’t shatter us, they make us stronger.

In the End, we all lie to ourselves sometimes. It’s part of being human. Some lies protect us. Some hold us back. But the beautiful thing is: when we begin to listen beneath the surface, we find who we really are.
Not perfect. Not fearless. But real. And that’s a truth worth telling.

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