BEYOND PROVISION: "A DEEPER UNDERSTANDING OF LOVE"

Hello and welcome to @emotionsfeelings, my name is @rishagamo and here is my thought on "Love".

Sometimes I wonder what it really feels like or what it means to truly love someone or to be loved by someone, whether its love for a sibling or parent, love for a friend or love for a partner.
Movies lead me to believe a falsified perception of love, which is based on fantasy and creative imagination of script writers and film producers.

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My father was always away growing up, this lead to a low key relationship with my father, we didn’t get to have the father-son bound but he made me feel love by always providing for us . This act influence my perspective on love, made me see love and affection as provision. To show someone love, is by providing for them, making sure a family member, a friend or a partner was in lack of want. This I saw as the purest way to express affection to a love one.
I try to show love to others through giving whenever they are in need, I mostly don’t mind going outside my way just to make sure that a need of a person or persons in my life are sorted out, wanting nothing in return but recognition of my effort.

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My first relationship as a teenager, I practically had nothing to offer but my time and my words, it seemed enough at the time, since she never asked me of anything or complain to me about it, we could talk for hours on the phone, we were practically living in our phones, one will wonder then if we had nothing else doing. Anytime she paid me a visit we will play like kids from the moment we meet down to the time she will depart.
We lived far apart from each other but we will walk all the way to her house when ever she comes to visit me, and we will stay outside the house for a while just talking before she walks me a few meters and go back inside of her parents house, sometimes I will insist that to see her go in before I will be okay to leave.

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Whenever I think of my relationship with her, I usually feel happy and lucky, even for the fact that we are no longer together. For the long period we where together my only regret was that I could only afford to gift her just two things, a cheap wrist watch and a sweat shirt, which I am sure both items are not in her possession, I wanted to do something for her, one that will make her think of me whenever she though of love, to me it was a forever thing, though I was not sure if I made her feel anything close to love, but with her, I was sure that I was in love, not the kind of relationship where you were not sure where your heart was.
I met her in recently and I wondered to myself how we fail to end up together.
Although all I wish her is happiness, I still wish we were inseparable.

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Recently, I have come to realize that my perception of showing love may be shallow, yes, you can provide for a love one as a show of love, but it is not the only show of love that there is, love is caring for someone, love is being kind to someone, love is giving, not just your material resource but your time too. Love is making the other person feel heard and understood, it is showing respect to your partner, and making them happy. it doesn’t stop at giving and provision but goes on and on.

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