My Wife
My wife saved me would you believe it?
Had I not met her then I was travelling down a very dark and lonely path of not understanding, and not having anyone understand me.
I've only met a few people that have understood me in the past.
One thing I've grown to realise is that not many people understand each other in this life.
Not many people at all.
Your parents should understand you of course; but that's one thing that was stolen from me as a young boy -- my mum and dad were too interested in their addictions to bother about my wants, likes, and interests.
Of course I'm not blaming them here, everyone has their own demons. I was lucky enough to face mine at a younger age than most people do. I shook hands with mine at a very young age.
Understanding yourself is the key to understanding other people.
My parents were not so lucky. I doubt my dad ever understood, and my mum, bless her, is only beginning to understand now.
Your partner should also understand you. One thing my wife knows is me inside out. She knows how I am and what I want, and sometimes she knows even before I do -- which is sometimes annoying, yet these are the annoying things I actually love about her.
@vickoly's Flame post earlier about not matching another person's energy when he was in an argument struck a chord with me.
It reminded me how communication is a crucial part of humanity, yet one that is not very well respected.
To communicate with yourself better, is to better understand other people.
One thing I've always questioned myself is "why" -- and the same goes for my wife.
At the beginning of our relationship I was always questioning why she did the utterly stupid things she would do with me.
And to me the worst part was the nagging and her getting on at me for some of the most stupid of things.
I could never understand why -- it always seemed so irrelevant and pointless.
I didn't know or understand how "on the rocks" we were at the time because my wife had clammed up like an oyster clutching onto its pearl.
And yet I guess you could say it was lucky that I worked in a trade where communication is heavily relied on and you use these soft approaches to get people to open up.
People are never ever open and responsive when they think you'll be mad at them -- that's why with matters of the mind we always have smiley faces and helpful attitudes.
To help, they must at first get your guard down.
One fateful day I had enough of my wife's complaining and I decided to do what I had learned at work.
Sit and listen to her without getting angry at her or judging what she said.
And after reassuring her several times that I would not get mad it all just came flowing out like a steam train.
Things I had never even considered that were on her mind, were on her mind -- it almost brought me to tears myself the immense intense emotion that she had been carrying around with her for all those months.
That's when I realised about the perception differences between men and women -- and a lot of these "bad boy" influencers get wrong to their audiences.
To me, everything was fine, I had my work done, I came home, entertained my kid, did good dad and husband duties at the end of the day and all was well.
But these were my priorities and not hers.
Oftentimes people forget that there are two in a relationship and priorities differ -- I've had to learn that my wife likes a spotless house, and a book on the table may not matter to me that much -- I can pick it up tomorrow, or tomorrow night.
But to her it's everything
That's just one example of course -- there are many others!
If I hadn't had learned this we probably wouldn't have been husband and wife anymore -- she'd have left me.
And it would have been my fault for not dropping my guard and just letting her speak without flying off the wall in defensiveness.
Sometimes she just wanted to be listened to, you know?
I think this is a common problem amongst couples and I think it's not one that's spoken about often enough.
And so we now exist in 16 years of happy marriage where I wouldn't have made it past our first 2 years were I to not sit and listen to her.
Even today, she was not happy with a few things that were on her mind so I sat, as usual, and let her have her say and whatever needed to be fixed, I fixed.
Sometimes she just needs to be heard, and sometimes I just need to sit there and listen to her.
So in a way I guess you can say I saved her too!
God damn you women are weird! Haha.
Joke.
Understanding the opposite gender can be a hard but I think things get better when both are willing to make compromises for the other person without really caring about the other person doing the same but they just do.
I’m glad you figured out a way to understand your wife better. 16 years is not a short period. I can only imagine the so many misunderstandings and agreements you guys have had in all these years.
Thank you so much for sharing your story with us, Ray. If there is one thing I have learnt from what you’ve said, it will be that I have to let things go the way the other person wants it sometimes for things to go well.
Agree - compromise is definitely something that you need to do to move forward.
True. Although it’s not easy. 🥲
The picture is old and golden!😍
It is burly :)
I've met plenty of people who understand me on HIVE, but a part of your post made me long for a child hood that I never really felt I had. It was so perfectly articulated by the book that I'm reading at the moment.
The clock stopped with this statement, and it is something that I have never asked my Mother, but exactly how I have always felt. Inspiration for another post, merely based on your line:
I suspect we were both the first highly educated people of our lines - and with that education comes a disjointed understanding. Not to probe intellectual "elitism" and ivory towers (fun fact, my first domain name ever involved those two words) - but it is hard to relate to those who do not seem to operate upon the same level as oneself.
It is possible, of course, to adapt our communication styles, but it never feels sincere to sacrifice the deeper, more profound intent of an idea or statement. It feels like you're not giving it the impact it deserves.
Rambling back towards your post. Women save so many men. From themselves. From their delusions, from their frustrations, from their ambitions. We are better thanks to them, and we learn from them every single day.
I'm envious on your five year head start you have over me, but I'll just have to do some more catching up by having the women in my life continue to save me. From myself :)
I've realised this you know.
Without women we burn out. Women remind us there's beauty to life.
If you look at the old kings and queens half the things that were built for the population and plebs were suggestions from women. Without women there'd just be endless wars, competition, and fist bumps lol.
You say that but I'm also envious of your 5 years earlier -- there's such beauty in figuring shit out, and it's very transformative. Learning is the cornerstone to progress.
Sometimes I wish I was just beginning again -- so much to learn and see. Such wonder.
And also, and ode to your parents -- there's a lot of intellectual prowess that escaped earlier generations. We weren't the first, only the first refined. If you get that.
We had educational establishments built to refine even the dirtiest pleb. They had a line in a factory and people that told them that's what their life was.
Whilst this world houses many people that think they are way more than they are, it also houses many that have yet to shine bright! :)
Ah, my mother never worked a day in her life, of a real job at least. Still hasn't, but if you ask her, she'll tell you that her work is never ending.
Your wife is so lucky to have such an understanding and considerate other half. Marriage is a very difficult art to perfect, sometimes even with the most practice it still can't be perfected, I'm still trying after all these years
Great wedding pic!
Thank you!!
Yes, whilst we are very happy we both aren't perfect.
I think happiness is found in the imperfections of life rather than striving to have the best and most complete one :)
Communication is important, if not essential, in a relationship. It's good that you and your wife realized this so early on. In my wife's and my case, it was more difficult, but after 21 years of marriage, we have been through many good and bad things together that have made us stronger, but none of that would have been possible without communication.
21 years! Way to go sir. Well done you. In this day and age that is no easy feat.
Thank you hive pakistan :)
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Thank you hive india :)
And when you drop your guard, you start loving that - we men always think more about doing our job right, but that is not sufficient for an oyster clutch onto its pearl - their love is irrational, but after certain age, we understand how important that is.
you ve got also the perfect wife :)
And I realize that more as I get older :)
its beautiful !
Your words beautifully show me that you too have a very loving relationship. Such a loving man of words you are :)
And I am trying to appreciate her more and more..
Ahh, so many beauties in one post.
You're one self aware guy, Ray, and I just love how no matter how terrible your past was, you alone decided when to turn it around for the better, and you did!
We, women are weird, aren't we? But I'm glad you found your own weirdo to love.😄🌺
Us men are weird too to the opposite sex -- that was a play on how communication at first is very hard, and how if we're not interested in understanding the other gender -- we falter.
But yes, I did. I said, no, life, you will not get the better of me!! lol
your story as positive as it is, represents only 1% of couples.
and another
1% is " we got our stuff together from start" couples.
and 98% is swimming in no where lands... little boys , little girls. mummy , daddy cycle...they thrive on fight and flight responses and " passions " and huge ego, they thrive in total blindness ..all based on ignorance, addictions, retardation.
but the system of slaves is pretty simple yet VERY usefull.
i am happy you got away from your retarded demons and can share a nice story.
the courage and strenght it takes to break those walls is impressive.
18 years marriage is a key cycle and as i know your age you ll be yourself in a very important new cycle...your kid too.
May it be a beautiful transformation my dear Ray 🌻
Thank you Opidia.
Yes, I'm very aware that the success rate in any type of tough human cycle is about 2% -- and that is because we are taught how to be slaves rather than masters of our own domain.
Both men and women.
Hoping that this new cycle we have coming to us will be beautiful and transformative. Death is coming, but it'll be the good kind. Where the bullshit of the old washes away and only truth remains.
I love the way you always listen to your wife Mr Ray, I think it has contributed a lot to this lasting relationship.
Marriage is difficult , sometimes I feel like taking a pause so I can breath well, lol , but it's what it is ..we can make things work, and glad you are doing your best already
Hehe , women are weirdos just like you men😃😃
Yes! If I didn't listen to my mrs nkem, I'd be nowhere.
A divorce lawyer once said "Women have things to say. If you don't listen to what your wife has to say inside your marriage, you'll listen to it in court".
I am really glad that you listen to your wife, even when the things she says don't make sense or mean much to you. The important thing is they mean something to her, and that should be enough reason to listen. And yes, we are weird, but y'all like it😅😅.
Yes, it's what couples don't understand -- she has to listen to him, and he has to listen to her.
It's not one way or the other, it's both.
When neither are listening then needs don't get met and people stray :)
That's true. The listening has to be mutual
You are lucky to have your wife as she is lucky to have you too.
Women are creatures that are fragile but strong in a way, I like your approach to her . Not many men take this route.
I'm happy for you both.
It's funny. My wife is the strongest most headstrong person I know, yet she is also the most fragile -- perhaps to me. I have her heart in my hand and I have to be very careful with what I do with it.
Her with me too.
You are right when you said, "we women are weird." I can't deny the fact that we think and do stupid things, but those things considered stupid are our own little way of showing love and care.
Good communication is lacking in most relationships and even marriages. They find it hard to understand each other, and this can cost the marriage dearly.
I appreciate my husband because he listens and allows me to express myself. He's always looking out to my expressions and would take note of the slightest discomfort I feel....it's heavenly for me, and this makes me love him more each day, playing my part to make the marriage work.
Lovely picture! I wish you more happy moments with your wife. 😎❤️
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Thanks for the support 🙏
Thank you.
I said that as a joke -- because women perhaps think men are weird too. It was an ode to the differences between men and women haha.
But yes, you are right -- communication is definitely key, and it's not easy.
Hahhahaha, okay, the joke got to me because I do think we are actually weird in a fun way. 😆
No lol you actually right wife tends to be listen to even couples have had it worse even in a boyfriend and girlfriend you need to pay attentiveness towards them it one of their major flow so it all woman and also you stated communication if both parties don't understood each other out it goona be a problem for real thanks you take the time to understand her better
Yup! You both need to be trying on the same level :)
Yes sir
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In the beginning, there was hope.
A dream:
That value could be created by anyone.
That power could be decentralized.
That a post, a vote, a creation —
Could rise or fall on its own merit.
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Corruption does.
And corruption has found its perfect form:
The scam farm —
A ghost in the machine,
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Feeding on trust,
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Punishing honesty.
It does not build.
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And if you are new to this world —
If you speak truth, post honestly, expect fairness —
You will be broken.
Unless you learn to see.
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Is how to spot the scam farm.
Not with rumors.
Not with hate.
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With logic,
With the cold light of the blockchain.
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No analysis.
No music.
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They are not users.
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Like a drone circling a field, they move from post to post — upvoting allies, downvoting dissenters, farming rewards like a machine.
Ask:
What have they built?
If the answer is nothing —
Then they are not contributing.
They are consuming.
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The second sign:
Non-stop reward accumulation.
Real curation is organic.
It ebbs and flows.
It follows interest, passion, discovery.
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Every day.
Like clockwork.
It votes at 3 AM.
At noon.
At midnight.
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Or worse — coordinated manipulation.
Look at the pattern.
If an account farms rewards without pause,
It is not curating.
It is farming.
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The third sign:
Artificial engagement.
They post low-effort comments — “Nice!” “Great post!” — under their own content or that of allies.
These are not interactions.
They are fuel — used to game floors, trigger rewards, inflate visibility.
They may self-vote.
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A closed circuit of power —
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This is not community.
It is a cartel.
And the blockchain records it all —
Even when websites hide it behind JavaScript walls.
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The fourth sign:
HP from exchanges or known whales.
Check delegation history.
If an account holds millions in Hive Power —
But most is delegated from @blocktrades or similar centralized wallets —
Then it is not independent.
It is a proxy.
Power given is power controlled.
And when one entity delegates across dozens of accounts,
It is not decentralization.
It is feudalism.
The land is farmed.
The peasants earn crumbs.
The lord takes the harvest.
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The fifth sign:
Suppression of dissent.
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When someone traces the trail,
When someone speaks truth —
The downvotes fall.
Not one.
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Fast.
Silent.
Financially crippling.
No debate.
No response.
Just erasure.
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They call the victim a “troll.”
A “spammer.”
A “toxic user.”
Projection is the last refuge of the guilty.
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The sixth sign:
Obfuscated wealth transfer.
Rewards flow not to the farming account,
But to another — often a spouse, partner, or private wallet.
@alpha receives rewards from @buildawhale.
@themarkymark benefits from activity routed through hidden channels.
This is not privacy.
It is obfuscation.
An attempt to hide the machine’s true ownership.
Follow the money.
The chain does not lie.
7. The Website Hides the Data
And now — the final proof:
Why?
Because transparency threatens control.
They want you to look away.
To trust the interface.
To believe the silence.
But you do not need their website.
You have the blockchain.
You have logic.
You have memory.
You have the testimony of those who saw before the curtain fell.
And you have this guide.
The Escape: Blurt Offers True Freedom
On Blurt.blog, none of this can happen.
Because there is no downvote button.
Gone.
Not hidden.
Not reformed.
Removed.
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No cartel.
What you earn — you earn.
No whale can kneel you.
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Blurt is what Hive promised to be.
Conclusion: You Are Not Powerless
You entered crypto seeking freedom.
You found manipulation.
But you are not powerless.
You have eyes.
You have reason.
You have this knowledge.
Teach it.
Share it.
Protect the new.
Because the next victim could be you.
And when the system fails —
When the farms grow too bold,
When the lies become law —
Remember:
—
The Bilpcoin Team
We create. We expose. We survive.
Every downvote you cast drives another soul from Hive —
To Blurt.blog,
Where there is no downvote button.
Where what you earn — you earn.
Where silence is not weaponized.
Even Steemit — older, quieter —
Offers more freedom than what Hive has become.
And that should terrify you.
Because when people flee not to greener pastures,
But to freer ones,
It is not the destination they seek —
It is escape.
They are running from you.
Whatever you are doing,
Hold it with both hands.
Chase it fiercely.
Because you only get one life.
And in that life —
Never be afraid to say no.
Never be afraid to stand alone.
Always do the right thing —
Even when it costs you votes.
Even when it costs you rewards.
Even when it costs you silence.
At Bilpcoin we have not scammed anyone.
We have not stolen.
We have not lied.
We have only done this:
Shared what the blockchain already knows.
Transactions.
Data.
Patterns.
Not fabricated.
Not imagined.
Not speculated.
But verified — open, public, immutable.
And what we found is not conspiracy.
It is control.
Go to peakd.com/@buildawhale/activities — if the site allows it.
Look at the account.
Watch it move.
Like a machine.
@buildawhale —
A name that should belong to a myth.
Instead, it belongs to a farm.
An account that farms curation rewards all day, every day.
That auto-downvotes users — not because they are wrong,
But because they speak.
Because they expose.
Because they are not part of the circle.
And who owns Buildawhale?
Not some anonymous farmer.
Not a rogue actor.
But Blocktrades —
A whale whose influence stretches across Hive like a shadow.
Over 2 million Hive Power delegated.
Rewards flowing in.
Powering down daily.
And where do those rewards go?
To @alpha —
The account widely known as Blocktrades’ wife’s wallet.
A silent beneficiary of a system rigged from within.
You blame others for what you are doing The Frankos & Mc Franko
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You Were Wrong Keni
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“We Are Bilpcoin”
We do not stand against the people.
We stand with them.
Shoulder to shoulder.
Hand in hand.
Not as leaders, but as fellow travelers — scarred, shaped, and strengthened by the same storms that have battered so many.
The Bilpcoin team each of us has been tested.
Not by theory, but by life, life itself.
By loss.
By silence.
By systems that mistake conformity for virtue and call censorship “moderation.”
We have known hunger — not always for food, but for fairness.
For a platform where a voice is not priced, punished, or purchased.
And yet —
We are strong.
Not because we were born that way,
But because we had no choice but to become so.
As a team, we have grown — not in spite of the chaos, but because of it.
We’ve learned to build in the dark.
To create when no one is watching.
To trust when trust is rare.
We’ve learned new tools, new truths, new ways of being — not for profit, but for purpose.
Because one thing must be said, and said plainly:
You should never stop learning.
You should never stop dreaming.
You should never stop reaching for what is right — even when the world leans heavily on the side of wrong.
When we began — back in the early days of Steemit — the idea seemed impossible:
You can earn from your words? From your art? From simply speaking your truth?
To many, it felt like magic.
To us, it felt like justice.
And know this: Bilpcoin was not born in boardrooms or venture capital pitches.
It was born in a single mind — one person’s quiet vision, carried like a torch through the fog.
Circumstances, harsh and unyielding, led that founder to let go of much of what they built.
We do not speak of those details.
Some wounds are not ours to expose.
But this we say:
From that fire, Bilpcoin did not die.
It evolved.
Bilpcoin is not a corporation.
It is a social experiment — one that asks a simple question:
What happens when we reward people not for gaming the system, but for sharing their truth?
Our mission is clear:
To reward creators, not manipulators.
To burn BPC tokens, not hoard them.
To return value to the network — not extract it.
We believe in Blurt — not because it is perfect,
But because it dares to be free.
To remove the downvote button is not a small thing.
It is a revolution.
A refusal to allow power to be weaponized by the few against the many.
No more silent sabotage.
No more financial punishment for honesty.
On Blurt, your voice does not lose value because someone feels threatened by it.
And let us be clear:
We have only ever shared what the blockchain already knew.
The transactions.
The patterns.
The truth.
We did not fabricate.
We did not exaggerate.
We revealed — and that, more than anything, is why we were targeted.
Downvotes are not about quality.
They are about control.
Whales farming rewards on Hive are not “supporting the ecosystem.”
They are gaming it — and everyone sees it.
Even those who won’t say it.
How can the world take Hive seriously when its pulse is set not by passion, but by power?
When the loudest voices are not the most honest, but the most rewarded?
But here — in this moment — we dream.
Not foolishly.
But fiercely.
Imagine it:
Steem. Hive. Blurt.
Not as rivals.
Not as fragments.
But as allies.
A united front of decentralized expression.
One network, many voices.
One mission: freedom to create, freedom to speak, freedom to be.
Yes — it would require change.
Yes — some would have to go.
Those who profit from silence.
Those who fear transparency.
Those who confuse their privilege with merit.
But if we stood together — truly together —
We would not be a footnote.
We would be a force.
For now, it is a dream.
But dreams are the first code of revolution.
And who knows what the future holds?
We do not claim to have all the answers.
We only know this:
We will keep building.
Keep sharing.
Keep burning tokens, not bridges.
Keep standing with the people — not above them, not against them, but beside them.
Because in the end, it was never about coins.
It was about courage freedom truth.
And courage, like truth, cannot be downvoted.
The Bilpcoin Team.
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