Stubbornness in Parent-Child Relationships

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We’ve all been too stubborn at one time or another in our lives, which is natural and, most of the time, positive, when trying to get something from our parents or loved ones. Most of the time, it often happens in childhood where you have the opportunity to get something from your very expectations from your parents or loved ones, which goes to the extreme level of stubbornness. Sometimes you succeed and sometimes you do not, but the expectation was so strong that nothing and no one can convince you to leave, that stubborn to get what you desire. It seems that you have no other choice or option; you have to achieve it by hook or by crook, even if you have to suffer. Sometimes we can see that the hunger strikes also work in this segment where you are trying to manage your guardian to accept your urge and provide the expected things as you desired. Even we can see or face illness for that extreme level of stubbornness, and in childhood, who cares, I need that and I’ll achieve by any means, which sounds unwise but workable. Also, teenagers and students always apply this type of stubbornness to get their desired things from their parents, which is common, but sometimes, beyond the limit of stubbornness goes in vain, which is pathetic. Sometimes an unsuccessful situation makes the stubborn a traumatized, and never forget that failure, even at an old age. Because it’s stored in the subconscious mind and never deleted from there, you always feel bad about that incident when by remember it in life when a similar situation occurs or is seen in others' lives.

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You won’t find a parent or a loved ones who wish to disappoint you or not fulfill your desire due having their inability against your stubbornness. Sometimes they have no ability or are not in a position to accept your desire for the time being, also you are too stubborn. Every parent and loved one always takes care of your wishes or desires and tries to fulfill them even in an odd situation, if possible. The extreme level of stubbornness makes them understand your desire and stubbornness, which helps them accept your desire and work out. But being too stubborn for the unusual, unauthentic, non-ethical, illogical, illegal, prohibited desires and expectations is not influencing or encouraging here. A desire or expectation should be justified from every angle where your safety and security are assured, after that your being too stubborn maybe accepted by your parents and loved ones, where I didn’t think any wrong or faults, everyone should be consider a sweetest memorable and enjoyable things throughout this extreme position of your too stubborn overall.

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I can remember, once I was too young at the age of 6, a desire was enhanced inside me, and I was too stubborn to get that football from my father. As I remember, the football made of SHIYALCOAT leather was rumored to be the best football experience at that time, which was the expectation of all football players at that time. I was one of those to badly expected that football and I wish to get that anyway from my father, no matter what comes my way. Primary, I asked my father for that football for my upcoming tournaments, although my friends were in my team, but their financial condition was poorer than mine, so I urged my father. MY father was a job holder, and it was the middle of the month, Also, we were a middle-class family. My father agreed to give that football at some point in the next month or later soon because of the money shortage in his pocket at that time. I was too stubborn to get that football instantly because of my upcoming tournament. All of my friends also expected that I would be able to get that football from my father, as my father loved me a lot and he always encouraged me to play good football, and my football record was good. At that time, it was a matter of prestige among my friends, but unfortunately, nothing worked out to get that football from my father. I was scolded by my father for my stubbornness, but I didn’t step down to accept the delay of getting that football. Then I started an extreme level of stubbornness about getting that football, and left the food from my daily meal, and sat in the corner of my house with a sad face. My mother and uncle tried to manage me and feed food, but I didn’t respond, I had only the desire to get that football, nothing else.

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After knowing everything while he returned from his job, my father didn’t tell me anything and left home for the outside. At that time, I cried all day long and was also too hungry and felt dizzy. At night, maybe around 8:30 pm, my father came home all of a sudden and gave me the precious football which I had urged for and got too stubborn. Finally, I had gotten my desired and expected football, and unwillingly, I also continued crying with happiness. My father adores me and feeds me with his own hands, and pampered me a lot, and asked me to play good football and achieve victory in the tournament. It was a mesmerizing memory in my life, too stubborn for the football, and to achieve that from my father. My father was the best father I have ever seen in my life, and I’m trying to be like my father for my daughters. I love my daughters best.

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