The power of circle; Effects of upbringing

about 1 month ago

Many people in the world today build their lives on advice from friends. Always wanting to be in everyone's good book therefore acquiring more enemies camouflaging as friends. Some people can't make a decision without consulting friends, while some believe a large circle of friends is all that is required to live a happy life. From my perspective, a large circle only means much trouble because your best friend also has a best friend, and in such a formation, misunderstandings are inevitable.

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There are some circles of friends with exceptional cases where they all wanted the same goal, which is to be successful, thereby working hand in hand to help one another till they reach the success peak they desire, but these are rare. Many lives of teenagers and young adults have been truncated due to the influence of friends and pressure. Many of them believe they are to take up responsibilities of their parents at a tender age just because their friends are hustling to take care of things in their homes. This is where parents need to stand up to their responsibilities and give proper care and upbringing to their children to breed a sane society where people are not afraid of allowing the well-brought-up ones to mingle.

Teenagers as young as fourteen are now into drugs, some drink while some smoke, and some indulge in all three health-hazardous habits due to peer pressure, and all this is attributed to a lack of proper family upbringing. A healthy society begins with individual family; this is why every parent should endeavor to visit their children in the school once in a while to see their ways of life and who they walk with or call a friend. I remember my first and second years in school. My parents did come without pre informing me and thankfully, they had never come and did not meet me at home. The kind of upbringing I was given while growing up shaped my life into becoming a better version of myself. It makes me contented and never be swayed by bad influence.

Greed and coveteousness being part of what lead some teenagers and young adults into indulging in criminal activities could be corrected from home, although some lost the good values taught when they left home and become vulnerable to peer pressure. Sometimes, the well-brought ones mingle with the bad eggs in society, and that ruins their future and displays whatever good values had been inculcated in them before, the reason being that many of these youngsters are not able to withstand pressure. Some are being affected by immaturity, fear, and greed.

If proper training are being given to children by parents, it will help these children in selecting their friends and lead to a peaceful society where we won't have children constituting nuisance and disturbing the peace of the society. Earlier this year, we had a burial ceremony for my grandpa, who was called to glory in my hometown, and because it was a village, we couldn't get a closed hall for the reception. We had to go for the option of a school field where canopies were placed to cover the people. As beautiful as the event was, it was disrupted by ill-cultured children who had turned to drunkards and smokers in the community. They were all around disturbing the peace of everyone there, the civil defense forces that were employed to take care of the security measures there couldn't handle them. They are jobless and tattered puffing smoke into the faces of the guests. It was disheartening seeing children who could have grown into responsible men going about constituting a nuisance in an event. Some might not wanted that part but were influenced by friends but then they could have chosen another path. Upbringing has a big role to play in the lives of children in choosing their circle of friends.