Respect binds relationship

People can be funny at times, or should I say, life can be funny. I've always asked why people get a bad reward for good deeds. Growing up as a child, my parents gave me the best training and that's contentment and being grateful for every good deed received. I was also taught to learn to give and not to wait till I have much before giving, and I've upheld those values to date. But I guess good hearts sometimes don't attract good people. Some see it as a sign of weakness and they take undue advantage of it.

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I have never for once envied anyone because what I was made to believe from childhood is that "God's time is the best and at one's time, all things will fall in place". But I'm always ready to help with the little I have because I know that's the right thing to do. During my secondary school days, I had two friends, including myself, who walked together. After secondary school, we went our separate ways and sometimes I do try my best to reach out to them. I believe we've completed the phase of our lives at that time, but I cherish the friendship we share but it was like I was doing too much.

I had a delay before I got admission, and at that time, both girls had gotten admission into a higher institution. We had a reunion party in the year 2018 and one of them was present. I had my hopes high, thinking we could rekindle the light of our friendship, but I was wrong. She greeted me casually when I wanted to give her a hug and celebrate with her. That passed a message to me, but I decided to ignore it and move on.

Two years ago, I heard that the one we met at the reunion has travelled to the United Kingdom. Although we don't talk much but I took time out to congratulate her on Snapchat. Just last year, I needed an assistant concerning a program in the United Kingdom, so I contacted her for help and guidance on how to go about it. My message was read but not replied to. I thought she was busy and would reply at her leisure. I haven't explained in detail what I contacted her for. I just sent pleasantries, at least I needed her help, the right thing to do first is to ask about her well-being before requesting whatever I contacted her for.

Just a few minutes after I sent the message, which she read and didn't reply, she posted, "they message only when they want to beg, anyway, come next time I don't have change to give you today, bunch of wanna be losers", with a laughing emoji. Those words hit deep into my soul, and I was devastated. Tears rolled down uncontrollably from my eyes, the only thing on my mind at that time was "I must make it, it's a must". I didn't bother to tell her my reason for messaging her anymore, nor did I confront her about it, nor did she reply to my message to date.

Indeed, twenty children cannot play for twenty years. I never expected that, even though there is now a change of level, because she is no longer in Nigeria. She didn't know what I messaged her for, yet she posted something that ridiculous and insulting. She might have said the post wasn't for me but some part of me felt really bad. Then I knew I had to make it in life not to retaliate but to help those that needed help. Not every help is financially related, listening ears at times can save a life. She might have thought she humiliated me, but no, it's just a call for me to be better and choose a good path.

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