Are they worth being my friend?
They say a friend in need is a friend indeed. Friendship has a long way to go in shaping one's life and it can also mar one's life depending on the kind of friends you associate or mingle with. There are those we call friends, I mean the true ones who have got your back always and will always be there to support you. Then, there are those who many of us have blamed and regretted meeting or coming across them because of how much pain they have caused us. Some betray, disappoint and say bad things behind our backs. True friends should be adorned because they are like family already.
Who are my friends?
Everyone is my friend as I don't have enemies. Even when there are people who seem not to be my kind of people to mingle with, that still doesn't make me hate them. It doesn't make me shun them when we meet outside or act like I don't know them again. They are still friends but on a different level. I have friends, both online and offline but something about me is that I prefer to meet with my family for anything than going to meet them. For this article, I will be buttressing my point to those around me and the ones I have walked with for a long time. I have one childhood friend and two we both graduated together last year. I still kind of get closer to my childhood friend than these two that are remaining. I am not the kind of person to have lots of friends. In fact, I rather stay in my lane if I cannot find someone who reasons with me, understand me and, one I would learn from and would learn from me too. One time, I saw how my sister's friends were so kind to support her, and then I realised those around me now are only there for the "I am her friend" kind of. The physical friends I have now aren't whom I wanted for myself and I am trying to cut off from them. Don't quote me wrong, this doesn't mean they aren't good but I don't see anything they are doing in my life other than gist, share unnecessary stuff and then come over to take my things.
I want someone who will add value to my life and not those who aren't ready to learn even when they see me trying my best. Apart from my childhood friend, others are just ordinary friends to me to whom we only relate on a normal level. Also, I have online friends who are supportive, and we learn from each other, and I enjoy this more than spending time offline with the kind I have explained above.
Are they making it?
Well, everyone keeps running their races and striving hard to become better. I wouldn't say they have gotten to that level already but at the moment, they are struggling too. Some of my friends are married already and I guess they are doing fine.
Will they have my back when times are bad?
Just like I said earlier, I prefer to meet with my family (my siblings) than meet with my friends. Though I understand everyone is striving and struggling, but I have realized the ones around me aren't ready to help financially as they find excuses here and there. There are times I have asked them to help me as I needed money then, and they kept giving excuses but I am always available for them when they come to me. This made me decide not to disturb anyone because I will only keep getting the same excuse. Even when someone comes to me, I give them excuses too except if the need is important for me to help. Aside from that, they are there to give advice and encourage me when I am down.
It is better not to have a friend at all than have many who wouldn't be able to help you out in times of need. I was stuck when I went to get a new phone recently and I couldn't transfer from my bank app as I was told I had used up the limit for that day until the next. I scrolled through my contact to see who I could call to send while I transfer the money the following day, I shook my head as I couldn't find any. Not that I didn't, but they are the ones that will end up giving me excuses. I immediately called my immediate sister who, without hesitation, transferred the money. This shocked the guy attending to me who said I was lucky to have someone I could call and would answer at once. He said he doesn't have those kinds of people, even his family who could be in that position to save him whenever he needs help. I smiled!
If you say you are my friend and cannot help each other, why are we friends? We all want those we can rely on, and vouch for that they can be there for us. For me, my siblings are my friends who I can meet with and help me no matter what situation I am in.
Thanks for your time on my blog.
Well, family is one network that can never be replaced.
Sorry about your friends but, enjoy their company, it may not be only when finances are involved
You are right. This is why I said they are there to encourage me too. Thank you 😊
Going to your family will actually save you some embarrassment that might occur and what’s the point of friends if they don’t add value to you or you don’t have value to them.... you said it all ma’am
Exactly. I prefer to save myself from embarrassment. Friends should be there to support and if I don't see any value, I will cut ties as soon as possible. Thanks for coming around.
Asking your family for help will definitely save you some embarrassment and why do we call ourself friend if we don’t add value to each other, you said it all ma’am
We need true friends in our life and they make our life more beautiful and more enjoyable. Without friends life is boring but many try to act like our friends and hide their true intension making the friendship. We need to be careful from them.
Of course, we need to be careful with friends who act as if they care but they don't. We call them green snakes under a green grass.
Not everyone is my friend, actually.
The thing is, people mistake the word friend for "acquintance" a lot. These days, I am putting people in my life in their appropriate categories. It helps to set the right boudaries and tailor my expectations accordingly. I would say those in my circle are amazing in their own way, though.
Yes. It is better to categories those you call friends because some are only acquaintances and moreover, we shouldn't expect much from them because we would only be disappointed in the end. Thanks for showing up man.
This a wonderful piece you have here. Indeed friends are good but then it's best to have them minimal. I understand your point wanting to discuss your issues with family more than you discussed it with friends, that's what most people will do.
But like you said there's no point having a friend if they can't be of help whenever we need one or does may not be all the time but at least once in a while that is what friends are for.
Yes, it may not be all the time but once in a while with friends that helps truly matters. Thanks, Vickoly.
Indeed value is a very great criteria in friendship... Friends that add value are always worth keeping around.
That is it. Anything other than that isn't worth it. Thank you.