When business and personal lines get broken

Mixing business with love is never a good thing because in the end, the love wouldn't allow us to concentrate on the business, or let me say the love might destroy the business.

I have once mixed business with love before and at the end of everything I lost the money and effort I put into the business, and yet I couldn't complain because the person involved happened to be my friend's brother. But ever since then, I have learned that I must never mix business with love if I want to profit from whatever business I am investing in.

It happened some years back when I was planning to open my shop, I had all the money I needed to start the shop but the shop owner wasn't done building the shop so instead of holding the money I gave it to one of my street brothers that helped me to get the shop.

I rushed down to my friend's place to talk about chairs I would be using in the shop and she told me her brother knew how to make such fancy chairs and I gave the money directly to their mother to give to her son, with the hope that even if the guy acted funny as a mother she would understand how much that business means to me. I saw some chairs outside of their house and that gave me rest of mind that he knows work.

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While I was in their house, my friend's brother came and we talked about the chair. He gave me the price and I told him I had given his mother part of the payment, he was happy and we played and talked before I left their house.

I never asked for a sample of his work since he is my friend's brother and I saw some outside as well, I thought he would never want to destroy the relationship between me and my friend and him as well. So I went back home with the mindset of getting everything at the same time.

It was during October since I paid for both the shop and chair, while I got every other thing I would be needing in the shop. December came I didn't hear anything from the shop and I was restless so I called my street brother, he told me he had given the landlord the money and they are still building the shop.

I got angry and asked for the landlord's number, he gave me to clear himself and I called the person to confirm if he was telling the truth. The landlord told me the developers were busy and she begged me, I was so frustrated but despite all that I didn't bother about the chair because my friend was involved and I knew she wouldn't want her brother to disappoint me.

When it was February, the landlord called that my shop was ready and I quickly called my friend to inform her so that she could tell her brother, she answered the call normally that day but after two weeks she stopped responding to my call and that made me worry and I went to their house.

I met the guy and asked what was going on, his excuse was that things were getting expensive and the money I gave him wasn't enough, I wanted to add more money that day but I didn't have enough in my account so I promised him to pay up with the balance, he assured me that in next two weeks I will get my chair.

The day came, I didn't get the chair so I called him again but he didn't pick up the call. I rushed down to their house, I met their mom and she was like, "Ah Tobi just left here now, let me send his junior sister to get him where he always went," I waited for three hours the girl didn't come back, I didn't bother asking for my friend because I have the feeling that something is not right since she started avoiding my calls.

To cut a long story short, the young girl came back after three hours with the hope that I would have left and she said, "Mummy I didn't see brother Tobi o," the body language of the girl wasn't accurate with what she was saying, you could tell if a kid was lying so I stood from where I was and told the mother that, "And you call yourself a mother, my friend's mother for that matter, just tell Tobi to eat the money," I couldn't say what was in me because she is my friend's mother and the guy is my friend's brother.

I left their house and I never went back there to ask for anything, I bought another ready-made chair because if I don't I can't start my shop and my rent is reading already.

One thing about business is that it must never be mixed with anything especially love if not such business can never succeed. I will never try such again I now have so many people around me who do furniture but I can't do business with them because if they fail to do my work I wouldn't want to disrespect them because of the relationship between us, so I would rather do business with a stranger I can face if anything goes wrong.