The pain of false accusations

Humans will always be human, and that is why they can just come together and assume something about someone without doing their findings.

I have been accused wrongly so many times because I am the type that doesn’t share my personal information with just anybody except for my family and close friends, and that made people accuse me occasionally without knowing the real me.

This experience I am about to share happened two years ago, and the reason why I am writing about this particular experience is because I was pained when I was accused by the people in the house of God.

I was in a choir group in my church, and I am very active because I love going to church and everything that has to do with the house of God.

We were rehearsing for the coming church anniversary, and I never miss one rehearsal. There was a time I was sick, and still I managed to attend the rehearsal even though my husband was against it just because I was sick.

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That day we discussed the money every choir member has to pay so that we can also contribute to the growth of the church. I got home and discussed it with my husband because the money was quite a lot, so he gave me part of it and promised to give me the balance later. My husband loves helping the church as well, so we had no issues with contributing to the growth of the church even though he doesn’t attend the church with me.

I had some money with me as well, so I completed the money and quickly sent it to our choir mistress before I spent the money. The anniversary came and went, and it was fun; everyone had fun, including me. After that, we all went home happily.

Two weeks later I was dressing up for church, and someone called me from my shop that I have a customer waiting. I changed my dress and went to work instead of church. The day went well, and when it was around 6pm, a friend of mine in the choir called me and started shouting, “How could you, Dara? I thought you were married, so why are you dating someone in the choir, and you don’t even bother letting me know”?

I was shocked and couldn’t say a word for some minutes because that was way too much to take in at a time. Then I took a deep breath and then replied, “Date someone? How? Who? Where did you hear such a thing?” She said, “Don’t ask me questions; just tell me where you are now.”

She came to my shop and then said, “I overheard the choir mistress saying it with her friend and two other members that you are dating the new guy who just joined us, and they said he paid for your anniversary dues.”. I smiled and quickly brought out my phone to show my friend how my husband transferred the money to me and how I also transferred it to the choir mistress.

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At this point I know that I had to address the accusations before it got out of hand, but then my friend told me not to because she noticed that I am very active, and whenever they see someone very active, they tend to push such a person out of the group.

I got home and told my husband; he just smiled and said, “In such a group that some set of people accuse another without doing their findings, the best thing to do is to leave them alone because it seems like they don’t want you there.” Two people cannot be wrong anyway, so instead of fighting anyone in the house of God, I quit going to the church, and the same choir mistress who accused me was the first person to call and ask why they hadn’t seen me, but I couldn’t say anything to her because my husband had warned me never to say anything to any of them.

I am mature enough to understand that people say things they don’t know about you because they want to get your attention or probably want you out from where you are, and leaving them is the best way to handle such things to avoid chaos in the church.

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