Red Handed
During the years, I've often pride myself as someone who isn't scared of expressing how they really feel. It took me a while but I learnt to be an open book when it comes to things like this, I learnt to tell someone how I truly feel if and when they offend me, I learnt to compliment people and say stuff that needs to be said.
As long as I'm not being disrespectful, I'm most likely telling you how I feel and just move on with it. I've found it a lot more easier for me to sleep well at night that way.
Just today, I confronted a friend of mine who had gone behind me to get something that he knew I wanted from the same person he knew I had asked earlier for the thing. When I realized what had happened, I wasn't happy with him and had confronted him about it immediately, and although he didn't apologise for what he did, it was clear to him how I felt about the entire situation and we both were able to move from it.
Now while all of that do feels nice and all, I'm starting to have a rethink that maybe being blunt isn't always the route to take, especially in certain situations. Maybe sometimes, it's best to just say nothing and just keep on observing.
I say that because most times, whenever I have even the slightest feeling that someone is about to do something that probably would make me feel some kind of way that I know I wouldn't like, I approach them about it...but due to the fact that they haven't done that thing yet and I don't have any real evidence that they were about to do that thing, it is always easy for them to deny it and get away with it.
And I know that shouldn't bother me, but it does. Because for some reason I've come to hate people getting away with something that is so obvious, just due to the fact that I wasn't patience enough to catch them in the act.
And of course most of these stuff aren't stuff that could hurt me physically, it's just things that sometimes could determine if someone should be in my life or not, if someone is truly the friend they claim to be or not.
So what I plan on doing every once in a while now is not act on impulse, sometimes I will wait and let them get in too deep, so that when I do expose them for that act, they won't be able to wiggle their way out of it.. They will be caught red handed.