Burning Bridges
Sometimes, people act on impulse, not caring about the hurtful things they say to other people, thereby burning bridges along the way.
A couple of weeks ago, a friend of mine had done something that pissed me off, but luckily for me, rather than use hurtful words on him, I had spoken to him calmly, while also letting him know that what he did didn't sit well with me.
What happened was that at the time, I and two of my friends (let's call them Dean and Sam) had contributed money to buy petrol to pour in Sam's generator. The reason why we had decided to pour the fuel in Sam's generator and not mine was because at the time, Sam's generator preserves petrol a lot compared to mine.
So we had gotten the petrol, poured it in his generator and used it for that night. We later turned it off with hopes of making use of it the next day, but when it got to the next day, Sam had gone ahead to turn on the generator when we weren't home and made use of the remaining fuel, something I wasn't happy about.
So when I found out, I had approached him about it but rather than shout at him like every vein in my body was asking me to, I had chosen to speak softly to him and had told him that what he did was wrong. We knew it was his generator and he didn't exactly need our permission to turn it on, but the fact that our fuel was in it, the least he could have done was talk to us about it, even if it was a text from him.
After that day, we stopped the contribution and everyone went back to making use of their own generator. Fast forward to today and my generator went bad all of a sudden. Sadly the repair man was unavailable and I really needed to turn on the generator to charge my gadgets because we haven't had power supply in days now.
As it turned out, Sam was the only option and when I spoke to him about making use of his generator, he had agreed.. Thinking about it, if I had angrily reprimanded him the last time and didn't care about anything else but to express my anger, he would have turned me down today and I would have found myself in a tight spot.
If I had burnt that bridge, I wouldn't have been able to go back and make use of his generator again. Thank God I didn't.
Sometimes when we do certain things, we should always think about tommorw and that's exactly for ur case in this experience. Humans will always upset us through their actions, but if we value that relationship, we should handle issues without allowing it to break us apart. Good enough, you could use Sam's gen despite his action the last time
Whatever you friend did was not right but you choose to stay clam and I liked it. People says not to be rude with anyone unless it's necessary because we don't know if we need the help of that person in the future. Your incident can be a lesson for us.