Why A New Person May Not Like Me… but do I really care?

Our lives as humans is a journey with an unknown end. Nevertheless, we all have different destinations in mind. We strive to achieve something unique, so we shape ourselves to become unique as well.

There is one aspect of our personality that we are all aware of—diversity. We act, feel, and perceive people and things differently based on our genes and environment.

This brings us to today's question: If you met a new person today do you think they would like your personality? Explain why or why not and what things about your personality you'd change to make yourself more likable if you could.

First, it depends on the kind of person I'm meeting. There are trillions of people on Earth, so I can't expect all of them to like my personality.
Whether this person likes me or not depends on her personality and the kind of people she likes.
If her personality is contrasting with mine, then there is a possibility that she will not like me.

Before I go any further, let me introduce myself, then explain why a new person may or may not like me…

I am a very reserved person, and making new friends can be challenging for someone like me. I have little interest in social meet-ups and find it difficult to sacrifice my time to follow a friend around. I have seen my course mates do that whenever they want to befriend someone, and it works for them. I enjoy being by myself sometimes, so escorting a friend to the restroom or a party may only happen if I’m in the mood to do so.

Secondly, I am self-aware—so much so that I can predict my friends' reactions and the words they would say if faced with a situation. I dislike being played and have a strong aversion to fake people. I can be calm and humble, but I am also very perceptive. When someone gives me two reactions, I can predict and prepare for a third, and you wouldn’t like it.

Thirdly, I don't smile much. My face is naturally expressionless, and I only smile in selfies or when saying or hearing something funny. The mystery I can’t solve about myself is why I can't smile at strangers even when I want to. I just stare without any expression, and I’ll only get lucky if the other person smiles, which will cause me to involuntarily smile back.

It's funny because I constantly share jokes and smile with my family and friends, so why is it hard to do the same with strangers?

Also, I don't know how to sugarcoat things, and I've noticed that some people appreciate that a lot. They don’t like to hear the truth, but me
will just open my mouth whaaa. This is why I choose to stare rather than speak when someone publicly disrespects me. When I stare at you instead of reacting the way you want, with a face you can’t read, you will respect me whenever you see me again.

Additionally, some people don’t appreciate constructive criticism, which contrasts with my personality.

Generally, I am compassionate, kind, and fun to be around. I don’t really care much about whether people like me or not.

However, there are two things I really want to change about my personality. The first is my struggle to smile at strangers. I understand how effective a simple smile can be in making new friends and helping others feel comfortable. Smiling can ease their stress and often leads to them smiling back.

The second thing I wish to improve is my social life. I want to be more outgoing and attend events like birthday parties, child dedications, weddings, and similar gatherings.

I feel that if I make these changes, I would be more likable to others. What do you think?


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I took all the pictures myself.