Rekindling The Flame
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This week's prompt is the reality of so many people who are married; some found a way to make it work again, and some didn't know what to do, so they went their separate ways.
I once heard a popular man of God say there was a time in his marriage he noticed he had fallen out of love with his wife, and it wasn't because the wife did anything wrong to him; that was not what he wanted for himself and his marriage, and he had to do something about it without his wife even knowing what he was feeling/going through. He said he retracted his steps and became very conscious of his marriage and wife and started doing things that would make him love her back; some were not even convenient for him, but he continued till he realized that his love for his wife grew back and was even stronger.
Marriage is a mystery, and everyone that must enter this institution must be very prepared spiritually, mentally, emotionally, physically, and financially. There is a study that the first five years of marriage are usually the hardest because you people are getting to know each other; even if you had dated for 10 years before getting married, once you get married, everything will change, and the person you thought you knew will shock you.
While some people will say that the reason why some people fall out of love is because they ignored some red flags during courtship, while that might be true for some set of people, for some it's not really the reason. Different things happened to different people. For some it's maybe a cheating spouse, abusive spouse, or manipulative spouse, and the list goes on.
A few months ago my girlfriend called me to complain about how she doesn't feel anything for her husband anymore and that he has begun to annoy and irritate her; mind you, their marriage is just two years old. When I asked what led to this, she complained about how he usually shoots her up whenever she has something to say. I told her what I heard this man of God say and asked her to start doing things that, on a norm, she wouldn't do, and also she should start sending him random text messages expressing how much she loves and appreciates him always. She said after our call that day she bought a material from her next-door neighbor on credit and gave it to a tailor to sew clothes for her husband; the next day she prepared his favorite meal. She just kept doing these things and more; after some time, she called to tell me that her marriage is back on track and they were able to settle their differences.
As far as the reason why I have fallen out of love has nothing to do with him jeopardizing my health, well-being, and life in general, then I can always look for strategies on how to rekindle the love and even make it grow stronger. You can't leave a marriage because you fell out of love for no serious reason. That means when you get married again and the same thing happens, will you still leave?
Marriage is serious work, and for it to work you must put in a lot of effort.
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The man in your story did the right thing, instead of giving up on his relationship altogether. Relationships need to be nurtured continuously. Glad to read your friend listened to you :)
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That's right, relationships are serious work and we must nurture every time to make it work.
The mystery of falling out of love without any problem arising to cause that is always baffling. But being able to retrace your steps backwards to the little things that were neglected which eventually accumulated and contributed to that situation is very important but both partners need to be willing to put effort into making it work again. Thank you for sharing @ozd
Yes for marriage to work both parties must be willing to put in effort 😔. Thank you for stopping by 🤗
This is totally true sis ..many many reasons aside spotting a red flag initially
However , if it's fixable , I would that dat unless otherwise
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That's right, it should be fixed if it's fixable. Thank you for your support ☺️🙏
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Yes @ozd deliberate efforts must be put into making the marriage work. One won't always feel butterflies
Nice write up 👏
Thank you