No One Owes You Anything
From a very young age, I learned not to have an entitlement mentality; I learned to let go of that belief that someone owes me anything in life. I have always known that if I wanted something, I had to work hard to achieve it, without relying on an uncle, an aunt, or anyone else to make it happen for me. At least my dad made me and my siblings realize this early in life. We are not our uncles' or aunties' responsibilities, so we shouldn't expect anything from them. This mindset helped me very well in the way I approach life, teaching me that I have to be self-reliant.
There's a prevalent attitude among many people in this part of my country that makes them think others owe them something. This has made a lot of them bitter and frustrated when those they hoped would help don’t come through for them. You would often hear people whining and complaining about how someone they knew, maybe a relative, a friend, or a connection, didn’t step in to assist them when they needed their help. I have a lot of people say something like, "I would have landed a great job," or "I could have graduated from school," or "I would have started a successful business," if only someone had helped them.
I am not ignoring the part that at various points in life, we all need help from others; however, it would be very important for us to know that no one is obligated to help you. A lot of people have different reasons why they might not want or be able to help you. So I feeling resentment toward them doesn't just make any sense; it only holds the person back. Instead of always expecting others to pave the way for us or do something for us, the best thing to do is to take responsibility for their own goals and dreams.
And I am not saying that we should reject help when it’s been offered to us or avoid asking for assistance when we truly need it. All I am saying is people should let go of an entitlement mentality; our success in life ultimately depends on us. I feel Blaming others for what we haven’t achieved is just counterproductive.
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Yes, this is a fact. Passing blames never helped anyone get to anywhere. We all need to work hard and make the most of our lives on our own terms.
That's just it, it's so sad that some people still think others owe them something
Really sad
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Just wait till those blaming their uncles or aunties for not helping them enough become uncles or aunties themselves, only then will they know how difficult it was to help sometimes..
Seriously, some people will never understand until the table turns
Absolutely I too believe that. There are people who have these false entitlements and think that the whole world is obliged to do things for them. Anything that anyone does can be out of love so one must respect that and not take it for granted.
Exactly, perfectly said ma'am 👍
I grew up to learn that as well.
And yes, many people has that entitlement mentality.
Most people I know it works for them, but that wouldn't change me.
Because I know where I am from and how far I have come.
I grew up to learn that as well.
And yes, many people has that entitlement mentality.
Most people I know it works for them, but that wouldn't change me.
Because I know where I am from and how far I have come.
They should keep enjoying it now as it's still working because they might get disappointed later.
That's it.
It is their life.
OMG!!! That's totally right! And I agree with you, accepting that no one owes us anything doesn't mean that we don't need help, or that we shouldn't accept or ask for help. Those are two completely different things, and I think that when we accept that no one owes us anything, it makes it even more beautiful and meaningful when someone actually helps us.
Oh, and it should also be the other way around, we don't owe anything to anyone. I do get some people get pressured from family to do some things, but at the end of the day we don't owe them anything.
That's absolutely right 👍