A bitter taste of honesty

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Truly, the truth is always bitter and hard to swallow. Sincerely speaking, it's usually not comfortable for us to face the truth and reality. It's usually hard for most people to unlearn and relearn what they are already used to. Let's face reality. Either we like it or not, the truth will always remain the truth, and we need it for our growth.

I have also had my own share of reality when I was faced with the truth and how difficult it was for me to either accept or acknowledge them, but there was one that cut deep down my soul and was really hard for me to swallow.

You are too stubborn and difficult to talk to; you won't make a submissive wife, was what I heard from the other side of the phone.

Sorry, I didn't hear what you said. Can you please repeat yourself? Sam repeated the words again. Oma I said you wouldn't be a submissive wife because of your stubbornness.

I couldn't believe my ears. I was shocked to my bones; the words kept ringing in my head over and over again. I kept wondering to myself why he would say that. I don't believe him; he's just looking for someone he would control. I tried consoling myself.

Prior to this, I had read many books on marriage on how to be a supportive and submissive wife, how to raise good and godly children, and how to keep my home and make my marriage work. I have listened to countless sermons and podcasts, and I can't count the number of seminars I have attended on relationships and marriage.

No, I can't believe him. I said to myself, If he had said this a few years ago, I would have believed without an argument, but not now that I have worked on myself.

I couldn't sleep that night; the words kept ringing in my head, so I said to myself that I would ask other people to hear their opinions. I have these two male friends who, no matter what, usually tell me the truth. So I called them on the phone to hear from them as I couldn't sleep.

After I narrated everything to Mike (not a real name) and was expecting him to say what Sam told me is not true. To my greatest surprise, he told me the same thing: that I was too stubborn and didn't listen, that though I am a good person but am not submissive, I have a mind of my own.

Then I called John; he also said the same thing, but he said I select who I respect and listen to. After those calls, I was heartbroken. I felt this weight in my chest. I didn't sleep that night. From that day on, I made a decision to work harder on my attitude and made my friends my accountability partner. It wasn't easy, but it was worth it.

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