How to not be ugly?

In my school, at the beginning of a new session, you apply for a new room in the hostel. Whether you stayed there the last session or not, it doesn't matter. Everybody applies for new rooms and are assigned new rooms. And by default, new roommates. This is something I like and at the same time don't like about the hostel. The reshuffling of rooms and roommates. I dislike it because sometimes, just when you begin to like and accept the roommates assigned to you, things change and they're taken away from you. But I like it most times because when said roommates begin to exhibit behaviours that you aren't comfortable with, things change and everyone leaves for new rooms.

We just started a new semester and I've been assigned a new room with new roommates. For me, it takes time to open up to people. Most especially people I know that we will be stuck together for a while. Before I begin to open up, I take a great amount of time to analyse each and every one of them. Identify those with flaws I'm comfortable with and those I should limit my relationship with.

Recently, I was in the room, doing one of my usuals - lying on my bed, phone in hand and airpods in ear. It happened that I wasn't listening to anything at that moment so i was able to hear conversations going on in the background.

Two of my roommates were discussing at the time. I didn't follow their conversation from the beginning but the part that drew my attention to them was when I heard one say 'I don't like ugly people. I feel somehow around them'.

Seriously, I was shocked but I needed to hear more and be convinced that she was speaking metaphorically. Maybe she meant people that are ugly in their hearts and souls.

No!

This girl was referring to people who didn't fit into her definition of pretty physically. I know that because she went as far as giving examples. I was even more appalled when she said 'I can't be comfortable eating from the same plate as someone that's ugly"

Her sentence made me realized how I had grown mentally this year. I realized that the group of people that I was proud to call my friends had very healthy mindsets. I never really thought much about how much growth I had channelled into my mentality but hearing the words she spewed, made it evident that I had grown and I'm thankful for that, this year. The ability to channel my mind into absorbing so much positivity and healthiness as I did this year.

In the world of today, if people don't fit into your description of beautiful or handsome. Does that make them ugly? If you think it makes them ugly, how about you? If you fit into your circle of friends, the Internet's or social media's definition of pretty, does that define you as pretty? There'll still be someone out there your features don't sit right with. But that doesn't mean you're ugly, does it?

Yes, you might be beautiful enough to qualify for world most beautiful but that doesn't define who you are. When we strip down the sash and the crown that makes us identify you as World Most Beautiful, who is it that remains? Who is it that is left for the world which you were supposed to be their most beautiful, to see? It's high time we open our eyes to see that our physical appearances aren't what makes us. They are just emblems through which we get to be seen. They could be likened to vases which without their flowers, their uses are questioned.

If someone is ugly to you and you're ugly to someone else, then, it's safe to say everybody in the world is ugly. Are we?

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