Honesty.
Most people don't want to risk their relationship so they live in denial and hold back the truth. We need to speak the truth in love. Lack of honesty has allowed so many people live in fear and that's why most relationships are tricky these days. Most people act defensive and that's why they shy away from owning up to the truth.
When you start acting defensive, you either accuse or you make excuse. When you are not honest, you wear the mask and try to hide like Adam did in the garden of Eden.
Most of the time we don't want to admit that we are vulnerable. We all want to act strong while suppressing our emotions. This is why we need to be honest with our emotions or our feelings. Share your hurting feelings...your anger and even resentments.
Insecurities would always make us to demand for our rights. Many people are competing with each other rather than complement each other. Most people have power tussle and they always want to be in control...have the last word...have his or her way. In marriage, there should always be a middle ground. Ignore your desire to be right. You are to have a satisfying marriage and keep giving rather than getting afraid of your freedom.
Be honest with yourself first as this helps you in being honest with your spouse. Face your fault...face your feelings. Be honest with yourself and ask God for help too.
Thank you for your time.
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To maintain a perfect relationship with people around you, learn to accept your mistakes rather than playing the perfect card amidst your imperfections.
A lot of marriages are subject to this particular issue and that's one of the major cause of broken homes which is on an incessant rise in our generation today.
Learn to accept your mistakes. Most people don't. They would rather deflect or make excuses and that's because it's easier to point fingers at others than look at yourself in the mirror. Good point.
Thank you. You've said it all. It's quite easier to piont and thrust fingers at others instead of accepting our mistakes and working on them so as to become that better version which we all —or rather— most, desire.
I guess its just the reality of life.
Nobody is perfect, we all are meant to do mistakes but accepting your mistake is the real courage a man or woman can have. there is where the importance of the person came and make your relationship strong.
This is the aspect that pains me a lot because it has little or no effect on the big adults involved but then to the children, it leaves an unending scar to them as they grow in confusion.
People now jump into marriage only for them to jump out In no due time too sad
Yes, most parents fail to acknowledge the fact that broken homes has a greater side effect on the children.
This a nice piont that needs to be emphasized on👍
Marriage shouldn't be taken for granted!
I will eat the same here. Man is in trouble as much as he wants and in trouble as much as he wants. Man should not lie to those people who love him very much. It gets damaged and it doesn't have the fun it used to have, people start to doubt each other again and when this thing comes in, I've had relationships that ended again. Have seen it happen. When a person admits his mistake, the next person also forgives him and love is restored. We all should live our lives in the same way.
Thank you. This is good. Don't lie to those who love you so much. The standard of the world has changed that makes it okay for people to tow the path of dishonesty. Honesty is the way to go.
Most welcome. You are absolutely right if a person does not lie then a person can be with his partner more intimately and with his friends and all his relatives he can live a longer life if a person lies. So if that thing comes in front of someone, then a person can't even be with that person for the rest of his life.
We have heard it, Honesty is the best policy, I don't know why people do bad things in their relations and in the end, due to these bad habits and things, their relationship end up in a very bad manner.
Nothing beats honesty man.
It reaffirms you at all times that you're doing the right thing for your loved ones
A person is truthful and honest, for some time troubles will surely come upon him and he is not afraid of them at all and stands by his word, then we see that after some time his honesty Yes, it is proved.
That's it... Honesty saves a lot
Yeah you are right.
agree with you here, speaking a lie will hurt not only you and your partner, but it will also hurt people around you, it will break your relation and you will live a hard life.
No matter how the truth may hurt, I als believe that you shouldn't lie to someone that loves you.
Nothing hurts more than that.
It's always painful, so so painful.
The greatest challenge with lying is that lie begets lie, once you've started Lying, there's literally no end to it as you keep lying to cover up the lie you lied before
When a person tells a lie once, then a person has to tell more lies in careful words. It is better to avoid all these things that people don't lie.
Exactly
Honesty. That's a big one. Most people would rather hide things, bottle things up and self destruct as a result of it. There is no other path to tow than to be honest. It forsters better communication too. This is insightful. Thank you
"Most people would rather self destruct." Well, this is pretty true.
People think the act of being honest is only beneficial to the opposite party. Most times, it is for our own self peace. There's this relief when we realise that we've expressed ourselves in a decent and truthful way.
Not at all, the act of being honest, will not only benefit your partner but also benefits you in a positive way.
Honesty above all, because the courteous does not take away the brave, you have to accept things as they are, without more or less, I think it is the basis of all communication, I have seen many courtships that have failed because of the pride of always wanting to be right, as well as friendship ties have been broken by pointing out mistakes and failures of others without looking in the mirror themselves, in short, we must be sincere first with ourselves to be better people and therefore better partners and of course always ask God at all times, thanks for sharing friend, happy week ♥
"We must be sincere first with ourselves to be better people and therefore better partners and of course always ask God at all times" I agree with you on this one.
We must be sincere with ourselves firstly to be make things around us work. Also, God is another important factor that we should always consider irrespective of how little or inconsequential a situation may seem.
There is no perfect Relationship but there is a truthful relationship... Ever wondered why?
It's because when truth is there, relationship stands the test of time 🙇
A relationship built on lie can't hold for longer. they can be broken anytime. so we always speak truth and stay honest with the people we are in relationship with.
Exactly! For me though, I'd say "They always break". From the little experience I've had or rather, scenarios which I've encountered, I found out that once a relationship has a foundation built on lies,they always crash.
Truth is freedom
It will not only make your relationship stronger but also last longer, you don't need to hide anything from your partner. IT will be a relationship of belief and respect. Trust will prevail.
You're surely a lover of Agbada and they always look good and great on you.
It's very nice seeing you write about honesty... Come to think of it, you've been honest with your origin Nigeria even though you stay outside Nigeria with your costumes, hehe.
Indeed, truth may be vital but without love, it's a sword of mass destruction.
Guys really need to see this as they are affected when it comes to this.
They always hide under the umbrella of "Guys don't cry" and keep dying within.
That's actually sad, we are all humans and we exist for others... In time of grief, we should share it with Others and they will console us and also In time of success, we will share it with others too and they will rejoice with us.
Great post you've made man
Whoever is not honest, be it a woman or a man, his future life will be full of troubles, because once a ruined person is finished, then no one after him will be. He doesn't trust him and in truth even if he is ever in a situation, no one helps him, so they say that a person should never act in this way. A person who speaks the truth is always successful and his family is also proud of him. We all have to be such a person.