The dynamic of our parents relationship and how it affects us.
Hello, everyone.
I welcome you to my blog. Sometimes when we see how adults behave, we can deduce that that was how they were raised and exactly how things were in their family that affected them either negatively or positively. When they say charity begins at home, it means a whole lot of things, but to sum it all up, it simply means that whatever we are or have become all started from home; the good or bad character all started from home and how we were raised, and mostly how our parents treated us as well as treated each other.
I have seen families where their parents quarrel and fight right before the kids and that leaves the kids traumatized and sometimes when they leave home and find peace outside they don't want to go back home which is bad, some people were raised in broken homes and it left a scar, the type of home we grow up in has a way of affecting us either negatively or positively, most people grew up into what they are all because of how they saw their dad beat their mom and have been made to believe that it is actually right to hit a woman and some might grow up to be like their father, while some grew up with a dad that respects their mom and never raise his hands on her and wants to follow in his footsteps as they have seen it as the right thing to do.
I have heard kids say they hate their dad and wish he was not their dad, all because of how he treats both them and their mother, also because of how he behaves towards the entire family, and in most cases fails to carry out his responsibilities as the father. Family dynamics can either leave you with memories you wish to experience again and again as well as pass on to your own kids or with a trauma you will not want your own kids to ever experience.
The truth is that our parents and how they treat us as well as treat each other always have an effect, whether good or bad. It is also true that nobody is perfect, and no relationship is perfect, but the ability to keep tolerating each other and sort out problems amicably when they arise is what makes any relationship a beautiful one as well as keeps the peace. One truth is that before getting into a relationship or even marriage with a person, make sure you two are compatible, you two understand each other as well as respect each other, and you are willing to tolerate each other's flaws.
My parents built their relationship based on love and respect for each other; no relationship is perfect, and there are issues, but all my life I have not noticed them having issues before, but I feel there will definitely be issues, but they are settled amicably without giving the kids the chance to notice it. My dad has never disrespected our mom; neither has he in any way treated us (his kids) wrongly. He might be strict, but he has not for once failed to carry out his duty as a husband and a father. My parents and how they talk and treat themselves is something I admire a lot, so yes, my family dynamics is one I would love my kids to experience too.