Start your own family, not join a family.

Hello, everyone.

I welcome you to my blog. Step parenting comes with a lot of complications; some people see no big deal in step parenting, while others see it as one of the few things they can never be involved in. When it comes to step parenting, we all have our own views or perspectives. For reasons best known to us, step parenting is a journey not everyone would want to embark on. If raising your own kids can be this stressful, put one through a lot, and one is forced to endure the stress because the kids are theirs, but trust me, not everyone can be so patient with someone else's kid.

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When it comes to step parenting, I can never judge an individual. If you support it fine, and if you don't, it is still fine by me; we all have a reason for doing everything and whatever we do. I have seen step parenting go wrong countless times, a stepmother coming into the picture and making life miserable for her co-wife's kids. Step parenting sometimes give room for jealousy, some step parent become jealous of a step child's progress and tries to tamper with it. It takes individuals with a lot of understanding to join a family they did not start and then handle the pressures that come with it perfectly. For me, anyday and anytime, I prefer to start my own family instead of joining a family.

There are so many reasons as to why I cannot be a step parent or have anything to do with a single mother. First and foremost, if the ex-husband or father of the child is still out there, then there is every tendency that he would still be in our lives for as long as we live, if not because of her, then because of his child, and I will not take because of a relationship with the mother, then stop a father from seeing or spending time with his child or stop a child from having a father-to-child relationship, so to save myself the stress, it is better not to embark on such a journey.

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Also, with the ex-husband or child's father still in the picture, it takes an extreme level of loyalty from the woman for things not to happen between them, which will bring about trust issues, and we all know that any relationship built outside trust will come crashing down, so what is the point of building it in the first place?

The child will never take you as they would take their biological parent. I have seen people try so hard to make a child accept them as they would their biological parent, but all efforts to make that happen seem futile in the end. When they grow up, they will go in search of their biological parent. The blood that runs through their veins is not yours, and there is nothing you can do to change that; even if you play the role of a father for years, they will never see you as their father.