Sometimes it is for the best.

Hello, everyone.

I welcome you to my blog and another wonderful edition of the Hive Learner's featured post. Today we all have friends, loved ones, and even family members we don't talk to anymore, and once upon a time we felt like we could not do life without them, and we never thought a day would come when we would stop talking, but life happened, and today we don't even care if the other person exists. I have people who we no longer talk to, not because we quarreled or had a real falling out, but it just happened that we were no longer compatible, and we all had to go our separate ways.

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Slowly ghosting is becoming the way many friendships and even relationships end these days, no quarrels, no fights, no goodbyes; just one person cuts off completely from the other, and the other person is left wondering what they did wrong, and in some cases they know and understand why they were ghosted and are forced to live with it as the other person's mind is made up, and they know trying to reignite the friendship or relationship will only make it feel one-sided. Ghosting in this case is an act of disappearing from one's life with no words or telling them a reason for disappearing.

Sometimes ghosting is the answer. I have grown to realize that we are all adults, and we all know what we are doing, and sometimes when I talk to a friend or a loved one about something they did that I did not like but they seem not to stop doing it, instead of complaining and talking about it all the time, I always choose to just disappear, cut off, and stop causing myself bitterness, whereas they know exactly what they are doing, and they choose to keep doing it.

Sometimes we give people second chances to see if they will change genuinely or act right, and then we realize that not everyone deserves a second chance. Not every behavior of an individual towards you requires talking; some require that you remove yourself completely and move on with your life. I have ghosted a friend before, not to hurt him, but it was good both for me and for him; it was for the best.

I met him in school, and I thought we were going to be the best buddies and would be there to assist each other in school and even after school; that is how much I valued the friendship, but over time he started feeling bossy because he started making more money than I was making and wanted to treat me like a younger brother and a boss. I told him how I don't like the recent development and it has to stop, but he had chosen his path. Since he had chosen his own path, I had to choose mine. He kept trying to reach out, but just like him, I have already chosen my path, and the friendship ended without a word.

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I had to take the decision because the friendship was starting to feel toxic; whenever he tries to act bossy, I react, and then we end up quarreling, which was bad both for me and him. We were no longer compatible, and we had to go our separate ways. Sometimes you don't need to do a lot of talking; save yourself the strength and remove yourself.