Having to deal with disappointment.
Hello, everyone.
I welcome you to my blog. One thing about life is that some things are inevitable, and sadly, having to deal with disappointments is one of those things we really cannot escape in life. Many of us wish we could actually escape having to suffer disappointment, but life has been programmed such that at some point in our lives, we have to deal with it, and having to deal with it can actually break a person if they fail to handle it well. Not everyone can handle disappointments; some disappointments can be grievous to the point that those who disappointed you are never to be trusted again because of how they made you feel or hurt you with what they did.
The truth about disappointment is that it can only come from people that we trust so much because that is the only way we can get disappointed or feel hurt, as those who we do not trust cannot actually hurt us or disappoint us. You have to trust a person to either get a thing done and they fail to do it or trust them not to do a certain thing and they end up doing it; that is exactly how disappointments come into our lives, and they are inevitable, so we just have to learn to live with it and deal with it whenever they come. Disappointments are not a constant in our lives, but from time to time we need to deal with them.
In my life I have had so many people disappoint me, and I handled it perfectly as well as ensured it did not leave a scar or change how I see people. The one disappointment that really caused me to run helter-skelter as well as made me look stupid was from a friend. We had a friend's parent's wedding coming up, and as friends of their son, we were given a uniform to wear and identify as friends of the son on that day. It was a big day, and everyone had to prepare ahead and avoid anything that would stop them from showing up in the uniform on the deal day.
So as to avoid getting disappointed, I gave mine to a friend to sew months ahead of the big day, and I paid half just to get him to start on time and deliver before the big day, but this guy kept postponing the day he would actually sew my clothes, while promising me that before the big day my clothes would be ready and he would deliver them to my doorstep himself.
He kept doing the promising and postponing thing, and sometimes we ended up joking about it, and since he was a friend, I trusted him to deliver because we were friends at least, and as a friend, I felt like he would honor our friendship and even give me special treatment and probably even get my clothes done before those of others, but I was disappointed as he kept mine aside and was attending to other customers, and since we were friends, he knew I would not be rude to him or try to fight him, and he took advantage of that.
I kept reminding him, and before I realized what was going on, it was too late. I went to the wedding late because I was at his shop that morning of the wedding, and I got home only to find out the shirt was too tight, and going back to his shop would only increase the possibility of missing the wedding, so I showed up to the wedding in a completely different attire and sat in a different section from the rest of the guys, and that made the disappointment hurt even more.
There are so many ways to deal with disappointment but what works for me the most is reduced expectations; once your expectations are not so high, it becomes difficult for you to suffer disappointment.
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Indeed, reduced expectations helps us handle disappointments. I know exactly how you felt because of your friend's inability to keep up his own end of your bargain. You must have tired yourself explaining to your couple why you didn't attend the wedding on time and in uniform. But that's life. Trust is a delicate thing, we should be careful of who we trust because trust is so very easily broken and we are left hurting. Thanks for writing.
Trust is one of the most delicate things to ever exist, it can be easily broken and you might never be able to fix it once broken.
You relied too much on the guy and this is one thing I don't do, the moment he started postponing was when you should have collected your clothes and the money you paid...
I was busy thinking about our friendship at my own detriment and I ended up learning the hard way.
Thank you for stopping by sir Burl.
Ever since I was hit with disappointment, I also lessened the expectations I have on people to avoid the same thing from repeating itself twice and it's been working fine.
That's the best medicine to fight disappointment with, reduced expectations.
Absolutely dr 😊
That must have been so painful. I've experienced tailors do that and I always follow my mom's style, telling them that your event is 2weeks before the initial date. That way, there'll be no issue when you want to wear it. Some people aren't just considerate and it's disheartening