Certain standards must be met for the union to work.

Hello, everyone.

I welcome you to my blog. As much as marriage is a very beautiful thing and we all aspire to be married someday, we all must have it at the back of our minds that for any marriage or union to work, certain standards must be met by both partners and not just one of the partners, and sacrifices must be made by both partners and not just one of the partners. It is annoying to see how many ladies have made marriage look one-sided; it is always the man who should meet your standard when, by right, you are not even up to his standard.

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A lady with a total of $5, both cash and in her account, is looking for a man with millions of dollars to come and take care of her while she relaxes and does nothing. Ladies these days make it look like it is only the man that has standards to meet, and that is very wrong. As a lady, you will not be put in jail if you have money of your own. Even a girl in high school already has the mentality of "if you cannot do transfer, then I cannot have anything to do with you."

For me, aside from looking for a lady who is well-behaved and possesses the character I want in a partner, she has to be beautiful and at least average in height too, skin complexion does not matter. I am looking for a partner, a support system, and not a parasite, I need a partner and it's not adoption where she comes and be completely dependent. I am looking for a woman who, when I am away, I know my entire family is in safe hands, not one that when you are away, you start thinking about the sad news you will hear when you return.

Many women these days don't want to work; all they want is to be called "asa odogwu." They are looking for men that will sponsor their extravagant lifestyle while they bring nothing to the table. When you hold no value, you don't contribute anything to the friendship, family, marriage, or relationship then you tend to lose your respect. Many ladies who rushed into marriage being completely dependent on their husband's money are now busy receiving insults daily.

For how long do you think a man can tolerate doing everything for you before he gets tired and starts to disrespect you? It is a trait every human being possesses; everybody needs support, but in cases where all you do is take and never give, what makes you think they will never get tired of giving to you? A relationship or a marriage is a give and take; don't just be a taker, be a giver too, be valuable.

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When I say be valuable, it does not revolve around material gifts or things only. Are you the type that can advise your partner, husband, or wife on what to do? Can they come to you with a problem they are finding difficult to solve on their own, and you help them solve it? When they find it difficult to make a decision about business or work, can you help give them an in-depth explanation of all the choices before them and then help them pick one? Being valuable does not completely revolve around money or finances; there are a lot of things you can do for people, and that makes you very valuable to them.