WHO I WAS VERSUS WHO I AM
They say the only permanent thing in life is change, and that is very true. As we grow older, our perception of life changes, and this in turn affects our attitude, the way we do things, and nearly every aspect of our lives.
Personally, there are some habits and lifestyles I have changed while growing up, because I have come to understand life differently. These changes have shaped me into a better version of myself. Some of these habits include the following:
1 . Doing things to please others
Over the years, I used to believe that in order to achieve more in life, one had to do things to please others. I felt that becoming a good person in the sight of people would make them stand up for me whenever I needed help. But the truth remains that the people you help may not even be the ones who will stand by you in your rainy days.
So for me, doing anything just to please others is a no-no. Now, I only assist or help when my spirit leads me, and I do it with an open mind, without expecting anything in return. This particular lifestyle change has impacted me positively. It gives me a free and peaceful mind, and I am no longer burdened with expectations.
2 . Worrying too much over what I cannot control
It is good to put in effort and fight to change situations, but the reality is that there are some things that should be left to handle themselves or left in the hands of nature. I have learned to do my best and play my part to the best of my ability, but I cannot kill myself over things beyond my control.
I have come to understand that worrying over things that time cannot change only adds more stress and problems. Now, I do what I can and allow the rest to take care of itself.
3 . Seeking people’s validation
Gone are the days when I would wait for someone to validate my actions or tell me that what I have done is okay. That doesn’t mean I don’t seek advice where necessary. I do ask for ideas and contributions, but I now understand that I have the final say in any decision I make. This change has helped me become more confident and independent in my thoughts and actions.
4 . Entitlement mentality
One of the best things I have come to realize for the sake of my peace of mind is that nobody owes me anything. I used to feel that people, especially those I had helped in the past, should be there for me when I need help. I also used to believe that my parents or close friends owed me support.
But with growth and maturity, I now understand and accept that everyone has their own problems to face. Life is hard for everybody in one way or another, so nobody owes me anything. This mindset has freed me from unnecessary disappointment and has taught me to face life with courage and self-reliance.
In summary, knowing and accepting all these things has helped me become more consistent in whatever I do to survive. It has helped me to be content with what I have and not to expect too much from anybody. These life lessons have helped me plan my life better and stay focused on my own journey
Thanks for reading, I am @nsigo1
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