Relationship Red Flags That I Watch Out For
A relationship is a beautiful experience when shared with the right person, someone who understands, loves, and values you as much as they do themselves. Ideally, we all hope our relationships will lead to a happy and lasting marriage. While some relationships successfully evolve into marriage, others do not. Even those that do may still face challenges due to warning signs that were overlooked at the beginning.
Often, we fail to ask important questions, assuming that everything will naturally fall into place over time. Unfortunately, things don’t always go as expected. The issues we ignore during the early stages of a relationship can later become major problems in marriage. These early warning signs are what we call relationship red flags.
Too often, emotions, physical attraction, and material possessions blind us from recognizing these red flags and their potential consequences. However, identifying these signs early can save us from unnecessary stress and heartbreak.
After all, if love is blind, marriage will certainly open your eyes.
What Are Relationship Red Flags?
Relationship red flags are warning signs that indicate potential problems, incompatibility, or toxicity in a relationship. These signs are usually present from the start, but it takes a keen and observant person to recognize them and take action before it's too late.
The Red Flags I Watch out for in a Relationship
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Here are some behaviors I cannot tolerate in a relationship, no matter how strong the love may be:
🚩 Lying
If I notice that my partner lies about even the smallest things, that's a major red flag. A relationship built on lies will always struggle with trust issues.
🚩 Disrespect and Belittling
A partner who disrespects or belittles you in a relationship will only continue to do so in marriage. Mutual respect is non-negotiable.
🚩 Running Away When Things Get Tough
If my partner cannot stand by me during difficult times and instead disappears when things don’t go as planned, that’s a big red flag. Such a person is likely to abandon the marriage when challenges arise.
🚩 Manipulation
A manipulative partner will always try to control and dominate in a relationship. This behavior will only worsen in marriage.
🚩 Cheating
They say practice makes perfect. A person who cheats today is likely to cheat again unless there is divine intervention. Bad habits don’t just disappear—they often resurface.
🚩 Frequent Mood Swings and Hot Temper
A partner with frequent mood swings or a hot temper is a serious concern. Such individuals can react impulsively and make rash decisions without thinking twice.
🚩 Lack of Self-Control and Shame
If my partner lacks self-control or shame, they might engage in public fights or embarrassing behaviors without considering the impact on me.
🚩 Disrespect for Boundaries
I cannot tolerate a partner who disrespects personal boundaries or tries to pressure me into doing things I am uncomfortable with.
🚩 Emotional Blackmail
A partner who frequently uses emotional blackmail to manipulate situations or get their way is a serious red flag.
🚩 Any Form of Abuse
Whether physical or emotional, any form of abuse is a major threat to a relationship's future. In such cases, the best option is to leave immediately.
Does this mean there is someone who is 100% perfect? No, I don’t think so. However, it is important to evaluate which behaviors you can tolerate, manage, or adapt to. Weigh your options carefully, and if the relationship feels right for you, then take the bold step forward.
I wish us all the best in our relationships.
Thanks for reading, I am @nsigo1.
Hmmm see that point of frequent mood swings mad hot temper, it's seriously a problem. Talk of emotional blackmail and lack os self-control again. You've made clear and right points here. It will be wise these consider these things. Thanks for sharing.
Thanks you sir
Indeed no one is perfect. Strange thing about life is what you consider a red flag might not be a red flag to someone else. As funny as this statement sounds "every partner na headache, just pick the one you have the medication for" it is the truth, red flags can't be contained. They are just signals of a ticking bomb waiting to explode and before it does its best to leave. And yes, you rightly listed the major red flags. Thanks for sharing.
Yes oo, what is red flag for Mr. A might be green light for Mr. B.
So just pick the devil you can manage and keep pouring olive oil on it every morning, ontill it becomes wat you want 🤣🤣
You have clearly itemized the red flags that one must be careful in a relationship.
God must help us.
Amen oo