I learned this through experience

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In life, we often see people placing their hopes on others, expecting them to do certain things or repay a past favor. While this may not seem entirely wrong, the real problem begins when those we depend on disappoint us. It becomes a very bitter and painful experience, and many of us only learn this the hard way, through personal experience.

The truth is, lessons like these are best learned from real-life situations because they are not usually taught in school, and even when they are, it’s hard to fully understand or accept them until you go through them yourself. Although I had known this for a while, certain personal experiences have made me realize just how risky it is to rely on anyone too much.

Back in my university days, I organized a book launch and made every effort to invite several friends. Many assured me they would come, some even called to confirm the date again, and I became confident that those I personally reminded would be the first to arrive, but the opposite happened. On the event day, the house was filled with people, and it was a beautiful sight. However, the surprising part was that most of those who showed up were not the people I had officially invited. Some were friends who simply saw the announcement online and reached out to say they’d attend, while others were people I hadn’t even thought of inviting but heard about the event through someone else and decided to come. I remember one friend in particular whom I didn’t invite because of the distance, I even forgot to reach out to him entirely, yet, to my surprise, he showed up.

In the end, only about five percent of those I formally invited actually turned up. It was both a funny and enlightening experience. Was I upset? Not at all. I took it as a lesson. I learned that the people who stand by you when you need support may not necessarily be the ones you’ve stood by. The people who help you in times of need may not be the ones you have helped in the past. That experience taught me to do things from my heart without expecting anything in return. I now believe that whenever I need help, God will send the right people from anywhere.

So, what am I saying? Help others if you can, and do it sincerely, without expecting anything in return. Lower your expectations of people because no one owes you anything. Sometimes, the people you are counting on may be dealing with their own hidden struggles. Trust God.

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