When Growth Demands Distance

It's a new year, and for some people, the new year comes with changing certain things in their lives where necessary.

I don't think I am totally exempted but the thing about me is that as much as I reflect deeply to make necessary adjustment during new season, I don't wait to cut off toxic people around me as it unfolds. It's not something that has to wait until the new year; I do that as it comes, and then when it's the new year like this, whatever needs to be renewed will be attended to as well in order to match with my new goals, visions, and plans for my life going forward.

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As I have mentioned in my blog in the past, I love meeting new people and that social networking is one thing I love doing whenever the opportunity presents itself without forcing anything but allowing it to play out naturally.

...But then, as we keep tagging along with people, learning new ideas that could bring out personal growth in some cases, at times, we find out that not all people in our circle meant well for us. Some are destiny destroyers; some come into our lives only to take away without adding value. Some are deceivers, while some can be a bunch of positive or negative impact.

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Personally, I have been on a journey, a personal journey that attracts lots of changes in my lifestyle; it cuts across diverse aspects of my life, and I am quite intentional about it. So far, I have my circles, who are like motivators and encouragers to push me to where my heart wants to be, whereas one out of these circles has been striving in many angles to drag me back to Egypt, lol.

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I love my friends; I hardly cut them off unnecessarily, but when there is a need, I do that after trying to help you see my viewpoint without success. So this person, I have been in conversation with her, but it's obvious we aren't aligning at all. Yesterday, I called her; it was a very lengthy discussion. I didn't even bother writing a post yesterday because I had a lot to put together as the year was wrapping up. This same person has been a big drawback, but after our conversation yesterday without success, I decided to cut her off for my own good. It's wisdom; it's not selfishness.

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Even the Bible says, "Lay aside every weight," so she has been a weight to my destination and I need to drop that without losing focus. Setting that boundary looks healthy, because we both look like parallel lines that cannot meet, lol, but we are still casual friends anyways, but keeping things low as the situation demanded while applying wisdom in the process.

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At times, the peace you’re craving and praying for is hidden in the distance you refuse to create all along, and getting the desired results demands that you intentionally create such distance. I repeat, it's wisdom, not selfishness or pride. Sometimes we outgrow clothes and change to new ones, and that can also be related to my friends and me.

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And yeah, there is a path I have set to follow this year, and it demands that I make new friends that align with the same path, so making new friends this year is very possible for me while cutting off anyone that needed to be dropped.

*This post is in response to the #Hive Learners prompt on the topic titled, NEW YEAR, NEW PEOPLE.

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