The Significance of Friendship: Building Bonds That Shape Our Lives
Friends form a big part of our lives. Good friends will always be there to walk through life with us, both in joy and in difficult times. What is life without nice people around us? It will be boring, if you ask me. Sometimes navigating through some phases of life is easier with good people around us. Carrying a burden alone can be difficult. It is good to surround ourselves with people who share similar perspectives with us about life. Good listeners who can hopefully provide some new insights and obtain a new viewpoint about a particular thing for good, and this is why making friends is vital. But then, making friends is not always easy for introverts.
I have an open mind to new friendships because I believe that I can always add to my knowledge from people. I love connecting with people, making real connections for greater potential, and making new friends irrespective of tribe, religion, or different countries. Perhaps due to my extraverted nature, but there's always something I look out for in friendship, like the one mentioned above. Yes, I am the type that finds it easy to make friends because I like socializing with people a lot, but of course I am also deliberate when it's about a close kind of friendship.
When I was a child, my parents were worried about how I easily made friends, and they cautioned that I may be making my life vulnerable. In school, at church, or in any social gathering, you must see me making friends due to my personality. I must admit that back then, as a teenager, I didn't consider any factor while making friends. I just flow with people that like me, and before you know it, the friendship gets stronger to the point of visiting each other's homes. At some point, I was nearly influenced negatively until my elder brother sat me down and told me to define what I want to be in life and know if I am getting along with people who can help me achieve that height or if I am getting along with people that will draw me back and probably lead me into a kind of lifestyle different from what I envisage to be. That single conversation became the turning point of my friendship journey.
Even though my extrovert nature still makes me socialize easily with people both online and offline, I take my time to examine if the person I want to start relating with has a common passion, dream, or interest like me. Is he trustworthy and honest?. Does he or she have my interest at heart, regardless of distance? Is he or she the selfish type who cares about himself alone and not the other person? Etc. When I see the kinds of person with whom I share a common goal, I do not mind initiating a friendship and working to make it stronger if it has already been initiated. I try to become more friendly, show care and support wherever I can, and ask interesting questions that may lead to further conversation. Exchange ideas and dreams, and gradually, we could experience real connections. This is how I go about making new friends whenever the need be; however, I do not hesitate to quit when we don't share the same energy along the line; forcing a friendship with someone wouldn't make a healthy relationship in the end.
As much as I love making new friends, I do not keep battalions of friends; I only keep a few quality individuals as my close friends because it takes a lot to maintain friendship if we should do the needful. If I call you my friend, then I should be there to support you and focus my attention and energy on creating a unique bond with you. Imagine having a lot of them to give quality attention to; it will be really difficult to maintain. I prefer flowing with a small circle of people who really know the real worth of friendship.
This is my response to the #hivelearners community contest on the topic titled Making New Friends
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Truly, it is easier for an extrovert like you to make friends easily than for an introvert like me. I find it hard to make friends but I love seeing good people being friends together and are always there to support and encourage each other. Having few quality friends is worth more than a battalion ones that doesn't add value to one's life.
Haha 😂, do I know you? Are you my friend? Haha...yea, introvert finds it difficult to make friends especially offline. Having few friends is easier to manage well 🧡
Definitely true. Get yourself a few circle of friends and you will be okay. Hehehe 😀 I am your friend by fire by force 🤣
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As you've said earlier mama,it takes alot to maintain cause the energy had to be there and you both as friends has to be supportive and there for one another.
To create a unique bond between you both.i agree strong with mama.
Thank you for sharing this amazing post of yours mama❤️.
I am glad you agree with my point here
I hope we will keep keeping great friends we can manage
Yes I totally agree with you mama.
Amen we hope mama
The personality of each one of us attracts friends, from what I have read in your excellent posts you are extroverted, but also intelligent since you choose who your true friends are according to your interests (in the best sense of the word), and compatibility. I congratulate you for that, and I'm sure your friendships are true.
Yea, it's nice to makes friends but being intentional about it should be inevitable
I am blessed with true friends
Thanks for visiting
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Being an introvert, keeping friends can be challenging but when you are always up for them, it's easier to keep friends.
You have a beautiful heart and it makes you easily make new friends but we must know that not all that smile at us are good friends.
I admire you a lot, trust Monday is treating you very well???
I do not find it too difficult to make friends but I do so with my sense....I no when to quit when things looks uneasy with anyone..but so I have kept true friends without anything to worry about
Monday has been great regardless of the headache
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Flowing with a small circle makes it very easy, but your kind of person can't help it, you are jovial, understanding and kind, even if you don't want so much friends, you will still find so many of them around your life hehhe.
Haha 😆😆😂
Sometimes I force myself to drop some friends..I will tell myself that there should be limit to everything..lol
LoL.. Omo, it is well mom
‘Battalions of friends’ got me laughing hard.😂 you are right, as we grow be come to learn that having a million friends doesn’t pay. Just go with the few who have your best interests at heart.
Haha 😆😂, laugh out your worries babe 😚😘
Yea, the more we grow, the more we learn better 🤗🧡
Indeed, adulthood is a different thing all together.
Unlike you, making friends doesn't come naturally to me because I am a recluse. However, my personality attracts good people my way eventually. That is how it works for me. Nevertheless, I enjoy my space and I want to only share it with those closest to me.
Awww, you have good attributes as a person and that's why good people get attracted to you naturally without seeking for it
I really appreciate your humble visit 🤗
I love where you pointed to be the extrovert person.
Normally, extrovert people don't accept that they're extrovert 😅
These kind of people, making friends is easy peasy for them
I read your post a bit before I rushed down to the church...I read a point where you stated that your introvert makes you not to make friends with people especially offline, haha..
No wonder it's been a battle for us to connect since 100 years ago u started troubling my life
How Una dey manage this introvert sef in the midst of many people around you... just break out and get to know people more. There's always something to learn from each other 🤗
Hahahahah🤣
This really got me laughing.
I'm a very talkative person online. I make friends easily here.
The reasons I'm yet to connect with you is that, I'm scared of not going to get the attention I need because you are very big and have many of us on your list. I like to be babied with all the attentions.
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Mama, I am an introvert, and I rarely relate with people. But I can keep the relationship if I find one. One thing I noticed in me, is that I can relate with guys more freely than girls. I like your piece. Keep on socializing with people. It good but be careful. Thank you.
Yea...I like socialising with men more but this days..mixed up
And of course, I am careful, ,😃
I love your conclusion to this, we must choose quality friends over quantity of friends and that's all that matter. I wish you the best!!
My dear...when they aren't too much, managing them becomes easier and fun 😊
Happy Val in Addy🧡
Your conclusions deserves a medal🏅 having too many friends is not necessary, what matters is having friends who got value and who mean more than gold.
Yesooo, few and quality gives more value
Thanks for reading 😍
I love how effortlessly your words flow to give us an idea of how you think. I agree with almost all of your thoughts about it. I don't think I am an extrovert but I do find making friends easy. However my circle did start getting smaller as you highlighted, especially as friends got married and shifted cities. Now in my late 40s I find my friend circle is layered like an onion. Most acquaintances are friends to the extent that we are social with each other and will do things together from time to time. Also we can reach out to each for help as needed. Then comes close current friends. This could be a mix of people who are close to you currently due to whatever is happening in your work or personal life. Even all the friends I made in HIVE currently are of this category. We are all driven and without a thought will support each other. But we don't drill too deep into each others lives as it is very difficult to work out the right touch, especially when remote. However these group of friends give the daily energy to face life. Then I have close evergreen friends. These are a combination of friends from childhood, friends from school and college and friends who have stuck around beyond the activity I shared with them in the earlier category. But as I grow older I find I don't share everything as I used to do in my youth. It is not so much about it being a secret but rather it does not feel right to dump my concerns when they have concerns of their own. However I do have a central core of friendship in the form of my best friend, my wife. So we end up sharing everything with each other and that to some extent alleviates that need.
Everything said and done friends and their friendship makes life worthwhile for me. As someone has said, you are given your family but you can choose your friends :)
Great post. I only came to curate from #dreemport but ended up going into my own thoughts. Thank you for that experience #dreemerforlife
Wow, I really appreciate your feedback @brijwhiz. You indeed ended up sharing your friendship experience which is a lot of value to me. A true #dreemer you
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I admire the role played by your brother in talking to you early enough. Friendship could have a lot to do in determining how someone develop attitudinal change or in some cases, how far one could go.
I like the steps you take your relationship with people through before confirming them as friends or cutting the friendship ties. One need to be intentional is chosing who to be in his or her circle.
Friends could be our mirrors in many cases. Thank you for the beautiful piece.
I came in from #dreemport to read this and I enjoy the experience.
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Yea...my brother was sensitive enough to detect when things wanted to go wrong and it did guided me on becoming intentional with friends
Thanks dreemer
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I can also frankly mix with others and it's kind of an easy thing for me but I consider nobody as a friend so first. From my perspective, I would not think of someone as my friend until I know that person from A to Z. I won't mind losing many friends but I won't dare to take the risk to make fake friends. I am stingy in that case and that is the reason many people in real life think of me as their friend but from my side, I am yet to consider them as my friend.
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