The Soft Life Debate: Self-Care or Self-Sabotage?

3 days ago

Let me just start but saying that I’m a soft girl and I love soft life. I didn’t grow up struggling to eat or being starved on the daily basis. I didn’t have to walk 10 miles to fetch water from the river just to bath or for my mom to cook. I didn’t grow up in a village with no electricity. I didn’t also have to wear tattered clothes to school or even use rubber as my school bag. The fact that I didn’t have to go through all these hardships while growing up doesn’t mean I’m better than those who went through this. We all happen to have experienced this life thing differently.

To me, living a life where I don’t have to go through all these on the daily basis is just something normal to me but to someone who grew up in these conditions, it might look like I’m asking for too much. Life is never fair, but that doesn’t mean that one shouldn’t want the best for himself. I don’t mean to brag, but I’m one of the most hardworking ladies you’d every meet. I have no rest or even time for myself. I’m always on the move, doing things here and there, all in my quest for a better life. I don’t want to remain stagnant. The world is evolving and I don’t want to be left behind. I am suffering but to me, the journey is the reward.

In as much as I’m suffering now, that doesn’t mean I have to suffer everyday of the week. I also want to live comfortably, treat myself to nice meals, fresh sheets every night, wake up to breakfast in bed and all of that. That doesn’t mean I’m asking for too much. This is what I’m struggling everyday for and if I don’t learn to embrace it now and do it for myself with the little I have, then what future am I fighting so hard for?

They say how you treat yourself is the same way others will treat you. I have this friend who always thinks of herself to be ugly and this has made others around her also start to call her ugly and it’s getting into her head. She could just stand infront of the mirror and call herself ugly. What I tell her everyday is, you’re not ugly, it’s just how you’re viewing yourself. There are so many ugly people out there, but who defines what ugly looks like? It’s all in our heads.

One thing I know for sure is, people would always treat the rich as they treat themselves and the poor how they also treat themselves. That’s just human nature. What I’m driving at is, what you want is valid because only you know how much effort you’re putting in to get what you want. Fight for what you want and enjoy it. Call it soft life or whatever you want, you deserve. And don’t let anyone make you think you’re asking for too much. If they can’t add up to your soft life, throw them out the window. Don’t lower your standards for someone who isn’t ready to upgrade themselves but constantly wants you to come down to their levels.