Parenting and Child Behaviour: Who’s To Blame?

I always say and will keep saying that if a child will spoil, he will spoil regardless of how he was brought up. Parenting is hard as it has no manual and most parents try their best to raise their kids in the right way. I would say parenting is more of a try and error thing as most parents, especially first timers have no prior experience on being parents. No one is perfect and same goes with being a parent. Our parents are allowed to try and fail, that’s okay. But, we as kids also have the responsibility of being thoughtful in all our actions.

I’ve seen kids who were raised in the best of households turn to be the worst you can ever think of and I’ve equally seen kids raised in dysfunctional households turn out to be very great kids. Our parents responsibility is to raise us to be responsible and respectable people in the future with good values but they are not responsible for every decision or action we take. To some extent, our parents have a say in our lives while growing up, say from the ages of one to maybe 15 -18 or even more. These days even kids of 13 years try to challenge their parents claiming they’re adults now, thanks to technology.

I grew up with my siblings and I can tell you that we all have different personalities even though we all receive the same upbringing in a way. My elder brother is the type that doesn’t care. He just does whatever he wants to do since he’s the eldest and so our parents trust that he would do the right thing. Then, there’s my sister who’s the calm and reserved one. She doesn’t like trouble and is always in her lane. And there’s almighty me, the one who won’t even sit for a second. I was the chaotic child as I was very stubborn. I had my days though. Some days I would just decide to be stubborn and some days I would just be holed up in my room reading all day.

Our personalities make us who we are and it was okay for all of us to have different personalities. To some extent, I believe we were all raised differently even though we all received the same upbringing. I say this because the way our parents would handle a situation with one person wouldn’t be the same way with the other. Even though I was the stubborn kid, I didn’t cause any trouble or make my parents to worry. It was more like I was just an active child and always needed to be up to something. I wouldn’t deny the fact that I’ve made mistakes in my life and caused troubles at some point in my life and trust me, my parents are not to blame for any of that.

I made those decisions on my own and acted on my own even though these stuff weren’t huge stuff to be considered a crime or anything. Everyone of us is allowed to make mistakes as that’s the only way we can grow. I’ve made mistakes and so have all my siblings but look at us, we all turned out great. A child would do whatever he wants at some point in his like regardless of the training he had while growing up. It’s only children who have conscience and think deeply of the effects of their actions on themselves, their families and loved ones and even society at large that actually don’t go out of their way to cause trouble or commit crimes in society.

We all have different mindsets but it’s our ability to differentiate right from wrong that drives our actions. The best a parent can do is to bring you up right, the rest is up to you to make them proud or go the other way which is entirely your problem in a way and not just theirs. So, as we wish for kids, let’s remember to pray for kids who are thoughtful in all they do and know how to differentiate right from wrong.

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