Marriage, Trust, and the Phones We Hold
To me, it seems that society has become so fucked up that everyone of us feels insecure when it comes to being with another person. One thing we fail to understand is that love is vulnerability. To be able to love and be loved, you need to open up the best and words part of you to the other person. It is only then they will know who they are dealing with and how to love you properly. But then again, everyone has their own thoughts. This is just mine.
Recently a friend was telling me during a discussion that the rate of divorce rate daily in some regions in Ghana has skyrocketed to over 200 cases per day. 200 might sound small to you but baby, it isn’t. In the next month or two, there’s a likelihood of it hitting 400 or more. Why because everyone is cheating. I’d like to believe all this stemmed from the fact that we have been made to believe and always told that men are polygamous people and as women, we should tolerate them. Yesterday, a colleague of mine told me 80% of men cheat on their partners and even with the 20 percent, they doubt.
I sit and ask myself if we the society are those enabling this notion or this is how it has always pain. Isn’t relationship meant to be a partnership? Should there not be mutual trust between both parties? Last I checked, all these needed to be there. The rate at which marriages are falling apart today is alarming and I bet you, it’s mostly over the tiniest of things. For me to say I’m with someone as their partner, I should be able to fully trust with everything, including my phone and I expect the same thing from them. As inquisitive as I am, I wouldn’t wish to be kept in a position where I would have to hide to go through my partners phone all because they are actioning shading.
Once I see myself doing that, I know to leave because trust has been lost due to one thing or the other. Personally, I would say it’s really not ideal to go through your partners phone like an FBI all the time, if they wanted to hide something from you trust me, they would place it right in your face and you wouldn’t see it. They say the less we know, the better. Don’t give yourself hypertension in your quest to be an FBI in your relationship. Be in your positive energy at all times. Let whoever wants to be shady be, because the truth always comes to light our day. We are really bigger than all the if you ask me. Love is meant to be simple and beautiful- let’s learn to build that. And when you find out your partner is a cheat, be sure to dump their ass!
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The less we know the better abiii 😁😁, but to me I would say sometimes it's better we scroll through those phones once in awhile
😂😂fair point