Marriage & Age Gaps: Should There Be Boundaries?

Yesterday I watched a wedding video on TikTok of this lady who should be around 26/27 getting married to a man who should be around 45-50. On a normal TikTok day, you’d have leukemia bashing her about getting married to an older man but wasn’t ready for the shock in the comment section. Everyone was congratulating her and there was not even one hate comment. I smiled, because finally people were starting to understand that marriage and who you marry is a personal choice. Everyone was talking about peace in the comment and that made me even happier.

Love itself is hard, so you can imagine how marriage is going to look like. Marriage isn’t child’s play. It’s a lifelong journey through the good and the bad days. You don’t just get to wake up one day and say you’re not going to continue with the marriage for no reason, unless there’s enough reason for a divorce. Marriage as we all know by now is a commitment, one between two people and even two families. I am not married, but I’ve seen my parents together for over 20 years and I know it hasn’t been easy.

My parents aren’t very old so I’ll take it they got married pretty early and they’re still kicking it like before. Regardless of how rosy they make everything look to us, I’ve been there to see how they handled the good and the bad days together. How they fight and make up so their kids wouldn’t be affected. The sacrifices and compromises they make for each other with every passing day. It isn’t easy , I know. But they show up everyday and do their best.

I’m not married, but I’ve hard my fair share of heartbreaks and so when I tell you even a simple relationship isn’t easy, you can imagine what marriage will look like. Gone were the days when people arranged marriage for their kids and the marriage turns out well at the end of the day. But not all marriages do turn out well no matter how you try to apply glue to it, it just won’t hold. I for one don’t really care about the who someone chooses to marry or their age. What matters is their reason for marrying this person and if this person treats them right and brings them peace. I would not want my friends or loved ones to get married to people who will cause them pain and bring so much trouble all in the name of age.

Age as they say is just a number, I’ve seen people marry those younger than them and live just fine and I’ve equally seen people marry their age bracket and even those older than them and they ended up sending them into their early graves. Marriage is all about where you feel safe, at peace and at home. The rest doesn’t matter and what others think shouldn’t matter to you unless it is that important. At the end of the day, you’re the one getting married and so just make sure you’re sure of whoever you choose to marry.

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