Losing a Friend, Finding Myself
That’s why we were all born in families, we grew up to have friends, we meet our better halves and marry, have our own kids and more. All this teaches us that the people in our lives are there for a reason. Some people are just there to pass time, others are in for the long run while others are there to teach you lessons. In all my years of existence, I’ve met so many people some of which I don’t know their whereabouts today. This tells me that life keeps moving regardless and the same way people come, people go.
I’m not one to have many friends because that’s just my nature. I like to keep my circle small and that few friends I have mean a lot to me and I try my best to do whatever I can to keep our relationship fruitful. However, not everyone has the same mindset as me. Apparently, someone I considered to be a friend I would have for very turned out to be the opposite. This is someone I literally spent all the good and bad years of my life with. This person was there to support me through thick and thin and I thought to myself, what more could I be looking for in a friend.
I’m not here to paint this person as a bad friend because people do change. Over the night, my friend turned into someone I didn’t know. No effort whatsoever to keep our friendship going, disrespect to the highest degree, attitude and what have you. I didn’t know what was going on because as far as I knew, I didn’t do anything to offend them. But as I said, people do change depending on the situation. I tried my best to keep the relationship afloat but my dear friend kept drowning us all so eventually, I decided to save myself, out of respect.
I haven’t cut off times with this person, but we also aren’t friends anymore. We are more like acquaintances now and I’m totally okay with that because we are not enemies. At the end of the day, I believe that the real ones will always stay no matter how much change the undergo. Because I equally have changed a lot but still decided to hold on. But hey, no more saving ships that want to drown.
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You are right. We meet lots of people everyday but that doesn't mean they all get to stay in our lives.
Since your friend couldn't tell you the reason for his attitude, it's best that you kept each other at arm's length.
Maybe one day you can both find your way back to each other but till then.
I don’t think we can ever find our way back cos we are way past that stage. It’s best everyone lives his life separately.
Someone that disrespect you isn't worth being a friend.
For every relationship to work the both have to put in effort and if one of the party isn't putting in any effort, then there's no need keeping the friendship.
That’s right. You can’t keep filling others cups when yours is being emptied.
Absolutely
This spoke volumes. Sometimes saving yourself is the kindest thing you can do. Not all friendships are meant to last forever—and that’s okay. Growth changes people, and that’s part of life. 💯
Well said!