Gender Equity: Fairness or Financial Shift?

This issue of gender equality and equality has long been debated in our world today and even till now, people have their own views on the topic. Personally, I believe this topic to be a very controversial one but at the end of the day, everyone is entitled to his own opinion unless they don’t know what they’re talking about.

There’s a huge difference between gender equality and gender equality. Now , let’s take a look into that. Basically, gender equality mean that all genders should be on the same level, have the same rights, responsibilities and opportunities regardless do their background and many other factors. But as we all probably know, this concept is only possible in an ideal world. I say by this because even we as humans don’t have the same background and even if we are given all these responsibilities, opportunities and all of that, what shows that we all will be able to show up and play our part. Even our fingers aren’t the same and I’d like to believe that this whole concept is to just make people feel like they are also being considered and it’s probably another way for people to escape their reality.

Now when we talk about gender equity, that sounds more realistic to me. Gender equity is all about fairness regardless of your gender. Gone were the days when women weren’t allowed to be in school because apparently, we belonged in the kitchen. Even today, some girl children aren’t able to go to school because their parents have that mindset still. Thanks to gender equity, women have been able to actually step out of ten stereotypes against them and actually explore so many things men are able to. Now, we see a lot of women doing so many things. In the work field, we see women being engineers, presidents, lawyers, doctors and many more. With this, women are also able to contribute to making the world a better place and also empower other women. I understand that some men will feel threatened by this developments but really, it’s not a competition. What more could you want than see your wife saving lives, doing what she doesn’t best and also being a wife and a mother.

Speaking of financial responsibilities in our world of gender equity, I would say everyone already knows their roles. But how many people are able to take care of their responsibilities as they are. Most men today ate literally in their feminine era because tell me why a man who is a husband and a father would neglect his responsibilities all because his wife is working. We all know the division of responsibilities in the family, the father is the man of the house, the mother keeps the home in order, takes care of the family and many more. So, why then would a father choose to add up his responsibilities to that of his mother and do nothing. I understand that now, women are able to earn money on their own and honestly, where I come from, it’s a woman’s choice to help with the finances at home. If she doesn’t want to, you can’t force her, but we still see so many women contributing financially to the ensure everything is in order at home. It’s more of a collaborative work now in most families and it’s not bad.

But you see those men who refuse to contribute nothing to their family, marriage or society, I really don’t know what they’re thinking. Some men have grown so lazy today and you know what they use as an excuse for their laziness? They say these days all the opportunities are going to women but really, I beg to differ. Most of the employees in the working space are men and this isn’t only limited to the cooperate world. It’s a known fact. To even make things gender balanced, most organizations are now trying to implement a policy of having about 30-50% of employees being women. This isn’t to bash men because some women also tend to neglect their duties as mothers once they start working and that usually doesn’t end well for the entire family because women are literally the backbone of the family.

We all have our roles to be play in the home, family and society at large and we should try our best to honor them. Let’s shake off the mindset of being the lesser one or trying to play smart and all of that. If you’re not ready to take responsibility for your wife and kids, then don’t marry. If you don’t want to be responsible for your family and society, you can always choose to live far away from society rather than making the lives of others difficult.

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