Friendship: Standards or Serendipity?

If there’s one thing about me that most people don’t know, it’s the fact that I always give people the benefit of the doubt no matter who you are and what you have done. The world has evolved a lot and it’s funny how we still have very judgmental people among us. I know a guy everyone avoids because he will always have a reason to judge you all because he claims to be knowledgeable in the religion.

I see myself to be a very open minded person and I really don’t mind whatever someone does or who they want to be, so far as it makes them happy. I grew up in a very big community where everyone lived like one big family and I saw how everyone lived with love I’m their hearts and smiles on their faces every blessed. That was where I was raised, make my first friends and grew up with them until life took us miles apart.

In this journey of life, I’ve come to understand that people come and go, but some memories people leave with you will stick with you forever. I have made so many friends in this walk of life and some I still am in touch with, others I had to cut off and then there’s those that we just fell apart. Such is life, everyone can’t be with you because some people ate meant to teach you lessons while others are meant to hold your hands and walk the road with you.

Currently, I don’t have many friends but the few that I have are more than I can ask for. I don’t mean to brag, but I’m someone with very high standards. You can call me a perfectionist or whatever but this trait of mine has taken me far because I use it positively. I don’t discriminate and so anyone I meet, I give them the chance to be who they are. If we click, that is it and if we don’t too, that’s is it. This isn’t to say that I just give everyone the chance to prove themselves. They say your friends reflect who you are and so I’m very picky when it comes to my friends. I don’t need anyone with low self worth and self esteem around me or someone who discriminates or lacks self discipline. All these traits are basic ones everyone should possess.

At the end of the day, I let everyone be who they are and late fate do its thing. If their values and goals align with mine click, we become friends. Even if they want different things as me, that’s more of a win for us all as we both get to learn from other backgrounds also. My only problem would be with if individual is crossing their boundaries and not contributing something good to the friendship. Along the line, if we feel we can’t be friends anymore, we can try to work thing out but if it isn’t working still, we don’t need to force it.

Life is meant to be simple and so there’s really no need complicating things. Friendship is supposed to be a good thing for us all and not something that will ruin us all in the end. Once you loosen up, you’d be surprised by the kind of amazing relationships you missed out on just because you were busy being judgmental.

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