Becoming: Are We Changing or Just Unfolding?

Looking back to so many years ago, I can say a lot has changed about me and everything I used to do and stand for. As individuals, we must be open to change as everything around us is going to change with time. Look back to when you were a kid, all those you grew up with have either moved away to live their lives elsewhere or are up to something or doing something to make their lives better. Even the community you live in wouldn’t even be the same anymore today , the place has probably developed in so many ways.

Now, take a look at yourself. Are you the same person from years ago? Have your values changed? How about your mentality? Personally, I would say a lot has changed about me if I look back to some years ago. There’s a lot of things I used to tolerate then which I don’t even give a chance now. My mentality has also changed about a lot of things as I’ve had so much exposure over the years that I now see things from a different perspective now.

My values, I’d say not much has changed about those. Maybe I’ve become more strict with them because I’ve had a few people tell me I’m a strict person. But honestly, that’s just me being who I am and sticking to my values. I don’t really appreciate it if someone’s goes against my values or does stuff they know I don’t like. Before, I might have overlooked it but now, I don’t think that’s something I’d tolerate since I’ve come to learn that what you give others the chance to do or how you make others treat you is going to be how they treat you.

Today, people love to take advantage of every opportunity they get. As someone who values my peace of mind and my personal space, I wouldn’t even give people the opportunity to take advantage of petty petty stuff. You won’t see me in places I’m not invited and generally, there are some places you wouldn’t find me. This is because I know who I am, the value I hold and where I’m headed. I would say I’m more level headed now than when I was a kid.

Generally, I wouldn’t say people change much with time, we simply change to meet the situations we find ourselves in. Everyone has to evolve at some stage in our lives. We can’t be stagnant. We need to change things, try new things , set new standards for ourselves and more. In a way, that’s change, but also , that change can either be good or bad depending on the individual. Aside, our level of spirituality , our emotions and how we handle them and even our relationships change a lot. We learn to handle things more maturely and without over reacting. That’s just human nature sometimes. As we grow, we are expected to handle a lot of things differently.

Basically, we are all just unfolding who we are, realizing different things about ourselves and making changes in some aspects of our lives. However, most times, who we are at heart doesn’t change much. A good person is always a good person even if it’s in a number of years time. But yeah, people do change also. That’s life for you!

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