Be You, Not Them

5 months ago

Comparison they say is a thief of joy. Most people are not happy with what they have and what they have achieved in life because they always compare themselves to others.

It’s part of human nature to be competitive but sometimes we have to know when to slow down a bit. Everyone has something going on in their lives be it good or bad. No one’s life is as perfect as they want it to be. Everyone of us has our own problems at some point in our lives.

Thanks to social media, people have started comparing themselves to others and feeling less of themselves just because of what they see others putting on the internet. It’s funny how we all believe what we see on the internet but we all know for a fact that people don’t post their problems online. Most people on the internet want attention and they would do whatever they must to get it .

I’ve seen people go to restaurants to take pictures to post without buying anything. Someone somewhere would feel pressured because they think this person is living large and they’re not. Also, I don’t know for men, but one thing I’ve observed about most of us women is that we always think we are in competition with each other when in truth , the only person we are to compete with is ourselves.

I believe that if you know who you truly are and what you stand for, nothing would make you compare yourself to someone else because we are all walking different journeys to different destinations. Once you get yourself to understand this, nothing would move you in the world.

Even if one is to compare himself to others, it should be in a positive way. For example, you tell yourself you’re going to do better at something because you believe you can. It’s more like you telling yourself that if Elon Musk could be this rich, what’s stopping you from also being this rich. That’s the kind of positive comparison we want to see and even with this, I wouldn’t really call it comparison but rather , I’d call it inspiration.

Regardless, we all someway somehow sometimes find ourselves slipping when it comes to comparison. Sometimes it just happens but that doesn’t mean we can’t control. It’s best to control it rather than feeding it because eventually , it could lead to jealousy, hate and many more emotions and feelings you wouldn’t want.

As individuals, we should all learn to focus on our own journey.

This is my entry to the #augustinleo prompt day 13. Read more about it here- August INLEO writing prompt.

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