KISS BLOG IDEAS. WEEK #171: Low-maintenance friendship
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Low-maintenance friendship
I remember my only two friends who lived close to home (Xiomara and Edicta), the only friend I had at school (Ana Karina), the only two friends I had in high school (Jenny and Mariela), and the only friend I had at university (Indira). Those six friends I had during my school years, both as children and young adults, are still my friends. Every time we've met, we're filled with joy and try to catch up in just a few minutes. We lead different lives, in different places, but there are bonds that unite us, that make us the same, even though we're not.
These friends, and others who have arrived later, know my family, and my family knows them. They've been to my house, and I've been to theirs. I would never allow anyone I didn't fully trust to enter my home, to know my secrets and my weak spots. That "small handful" of friends are like sisters, whom I listen to, respect, and admire.
I practice a friendship that doesn't require texting every day, going out every weekend, or sharing everything. All my friends are married, with children and even grandchildren, and they lead a home life that I respect. Sometimes we can leave work and have a coffee or a few beers, and we enjoy the moment. Of course, when we've been through difficult times, like a divorce, an illness, or the death of someone close to us, we rush to support each other, to be that Band-Aid on the wound.
I've never, ever received a complaint from a friend about a long time away: they know I'm there when I'm supposed to be, not before, not after. Nor do we wear ourselves out with arguments or complaints; if we have the good fortune and the time to meet, we take advantage of the moment to give each other the hugs we owe each other and fill the accumulated silences with words.
My friends know that there are things of mine that also belong to them, like my clothes, my house, my money: I'm capable of not eating just so they can eat, for example. But there are other things that belong only to me, like my beliefs and my thoughts. I know that friendship is about agreeing, but it's also about respecting differences and individualities. My friends and I aren't the same, and you could even say we're very different, but we're friends because no one tries to change the other, no one is above the other, no one competes to be better.
Aristotle said, "Without friends, no one would want to live, even if they had all the other goods." I think we agree with this quote, but what we haven't agreed on is the number of friends we should have and the time we should dedicate to them. If we follow the needs of this time, the ideal would be to have friends or followers who like us more, follow us on social media, and comment on every one of our videos, even if we've never met before.
But I practice a different philosophy. I don't need to have many friends, but rather true friends, those who don't need you to be with them 24/7, and who don't necessarily have to applaud everything you do. For me, friendship has to be simple, easy, unadorned, and in that sense, it's minimalist. True friendship doesn't require grand displays of affection, superlative words of praise, or repeated, long encounters: a true friendship should remain intact despite distance, just like those xerophytic plants made to survive the harshest climates.
The images are from my personal gallery and the text was translated with Deepl
Thank you for reading and commenting. Until a future reading, friends
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Thank you very much for the support, friends! Many blessings.
I agree that friends should be able to respect each other's differences.
We are different people, hence, we are bound to have different beliefs.
You have a wonderful circle of friends.
Thanks for sharing.
Yes, every day I am grateful for the friends I have. They are a blessing. Thank you for commenting and greetings.
I haven't seen you drink Zulia beer before? A low maintenance hug on this fine Sunday Nancy:)