My response to this week @LadiesofHive community Contest - Ladies of Hive Community Contest #145.
The 2 questions are:
1️⃣ Becoming a teen, becoming an adult, turning 60...
Share a memory of you from any of those times.
~ 𝐀𝐍𝐃 / 𝐎𝐑 ~
2️⃣ Share your thoughts on women and their finances in a relationship or marriage, is it — or is it not — right to share the details of your finances with your spouse?

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To answer the first question. It's a very sweet memory. When I was 15, I had a major crush on one of my school friends. I studied in a co-ed school and he was in the same class as me. We would spend a lot of time studying together, going for our extracurricular classes together. To be honest he was also fond of me, and everyone in our class had assumed that we both had a steady relationship and it would go a long way. But then destiny had some other things in mind. I studied in a different city then my home town Mumbai. It was only the last 1 year of my schooling that I had spent with him and then I had to permanently move to Mumbai.

It was a major heartbreak for me, for him it was ok, he was not serious. After shifting to Mumbai, for the first few days I would cry and cry missing him and felt like it was the end of the world for me, my feelings for him were very strong. In those days there were no mobile phones, very rarely we would call up each other on landline phones and then talk for hours. Eventually as I got settled in Mumbai, I met my husband and we fell in love. But I had made agreement with my hubby that I will never stop talking to this friend of mine and it will always be a nice clean friendship so he should not get possessive or have any feelings of insecurity in our relationship.

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To this day my friendship with my school friend continues and we laugh at all the silly things we had done at that time. It is a very special memory for me, because he was the first person in my life who gave me goosebumps and made me feel special and also the feelings that I had for him, it was all first time, never experienced before. A very sweet memory of my life.

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The second question about finances. I personally believe that a marriage is about 2 people in every way and that includes managing finances also. Now I am not having a regular income so hubby manages all the expenses, but when I was working, we both equally distributed the expenses of our day-to-day life. It was always together and it was never mine or his individually.

I do have my separate bank account and he has his own, and we do not operate each other's accounts but we do have shared passwords to access the accounts if need be. It is a matter of trust and in a relationship like marriage it is very important to have trust and faith on one another. We both are well informed about each other's savings. Hubby never will ask me anything but he will always share his. We both do our financial planning together. He says it is always good to be informed, because we live in very uncertain times and keeping secrets from each other may land into trouble if god forbid anything happens to either one of us. Which I also believe is very right.

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So that's how finances work in my marriage. It is never his or mine. It is US.

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