Ladies of Hive Community Contest #235 - Making Choices
Contest #235 of @Ladiesofhive community questions for this week are :
1οΈβ£ How do you recover from emotional pain or grief?
~ πππ / ππ ~
2οΈβ£ You received an invitation to three special occasions, but they all fall on the same day and at different locations β a wedding of your cousin, a huge family reunion, and your best friend's wedding anniversary. Where would you go and why?
Pain and grief are also one part of life which we have to face and we keep going through them all through out our life. One thing that I have learned over the years is to not shy away talking about it with people we trust. For me it works out best when I talk about it with the people who are very close to me in my life, like my son, hubby or sister. I do not want to share it with everyone but I will like to share it with people who can listen to me without making any judgements of my situation. When I share it, I feel like there is someone out there who cares for me and that helps ease my pain. Till one point of time in my life, I was totally opposite, I never wanted to share it with anyone and keep everything within me, but that was giving me troubles. I went through some healing sessions and there I was guided that it is ok for me to share and feel the comfort.
Having said that, it's not like I speak about it and I recover. The recovery does take some time, but sharing it makes my heart feel light and I am able to recoup with my situation better and faster.
It has happened to me twice that I have had 2 very special occasions on the same day and there was no way that I could miss either of them. 3 occasions I don't know how I would manage, but 2 I could. I did inform both the parties about my situation and told them how both of them were important for me. One was a wedding and the other was my very favorite niece birthday. I attended the ceremony part of the wedding occasion and once that was completed then I joined the birthday party later. Thankfully there was time for the party so I could deal with both of them. Both the occasions were at different venues with a distance of half an hour travel, but I could manage both of them.
To be honest 3 on a single day at similar timings I do not know how I would manage. Probably I will have to give some weightage to who matters most to me and then spend time at each one of them. If given the exact situation, I would first attend my cousin's wedding, I would not be there for the full event, but be there for the main ceremony part, then I will join my family for the reunion, spend some time there and explain to them the importance of attending my best friend's wedding anniversary and attend that. The timing of course I will have to juggle with and the distance between all these places will have to be factored. If for any reason I can attend only 2 then I will choose my cousin's wedding and family reunion, because friend's anniversary party I can always make it up later. And if I can attend only one then I would choose the wedding because wedding is like a one time affair.
I would hate such a situation because then you cannot enjoy any one of them fully, so ideally if such a situation would come up, I would max choose to attend 2 of them and drop out on 1.
Thank you for visiting my blog. πΌπ»πΌπ»πππΉπΊπΈ
View or trade
LOHtokens.@nainaztengra, You have received 1.0000 LOH for posting to Ladies of Hive.
We believe that you should be rewarded for the time and effort spent in creating articles. The goal is to encourage token holders to accumulate and hodl LOH tokens over a long period of time.
Emotional grief or pain a can be a lot to deal with, most times I talk to my loved ones about it or someone I can trust and it always helps me deal with it. They may not provide a solution but having someone to discuss it with goes along way to unburden the heart and get some comfort.
As for the invites, as someone who grew away from family togetherness, Iβd give up anything to be in that family reunion
Exactly, just having someone to listen to in itself is very comforting.
For me too, family is always the priority
Sharing one's pain with others who understand helps lighten the load. It's nice to have people around you with whom you can confide without fear of being judged.
Attending 3 events in a day at different locations is difficult indeed. It's good that you managed to go t o2 events previously :)
Thank you for sharing.π
I'm still grieving, and I guess it will last forever, since my mother passed away last year. While sharing it, I also make myself busy all the time, to avoid myself to be sad and feel lonely.
This post has been manually curated by @bhattg from Indiaunited community. Join us on our Discord Server.
Do you know that you can earn a passive income by delegating to @indiaunited. We share more than 100 % of the curation rewards with the delegators in the form of IUC tokens. HP delegators and IUC token holders also get upto 20% additional vote weight.
Here are some handy links for delegations: 100HP, 250HP, 500HP, 1000HP.
100% of the rewards from this comment goes to the curator for their manual curation efforts. Please encourage the curator @bhattg by upvoting this comment and support the community by voting the posts made by @indiaunited..
This post received an extra 15.18% vote for delegating HP / holding IUC tokens.
For me, i think sharing things with others actually let you know about how much stand and what kind of mentality they carry for you. It's not like you're always in a happy state which can be shared with everyone but the times when you feel low and sad and want to share it let's you know who is willing for it and clears your approach amongst people.
Having to deal with emotional pain alone is never easy. That's why it is necessary to have someone to talk to.
I feel you. I have once attended two occasions on the same day before, lol. It was crazy but doable. Well done on your choices.
It is very valuable that you attended healing sessions and were guided that it was okay to share grief and feel comfort, I empathise with you in talking about it with people you trust. It's great that even though both occasions were in different places, half an hour's drive away, you were able to organise it, my friend,
!LADY
!PIZZA
View or trade
LOHtokens.@cautiva-30, you successfully shared 0.1000 LOH with @nainaztengra and you earned 0.1000 LOH as tips. (4/12 calls)
Use !LADY command to share LOH! More details available in this post.
$PIZZA slices delivered:
@cautiva-30(9/10) tipped @nainaztengra
Come get MOONed!
!LADY
View or trade
LOHtokens.@hive-124452, you successfully shared 0.1000 LOH with @nainaztengra and you earned 0.1000 LOH as tips. (3/50 calls)
Use !LADY command to share LOH! More details available in this post.