LESSON FROM LIES ; DISCOVERING A HARSH TRUTH
I had a male bestfriend before and the reason we broke up as bestfriends is because of a lie, should I call it a simple lie?? No, it was a hard lie.
First of I started building that friendship with the truth, I hate relationships or friendships that are based on lies...why don't you come out plain to me and tell me, okay This is how it is, I didn't want to tell you about it because I felt you might have gotten hurt.
Simple,not to lie to me.
My bestfriend and I shared this unbroken bonds together, I didn't dare to lie to him because I knew if he eventually finds it from someone else it won't be good... I literally usually tell him about my relationships and everything but anytime I asked him about his relationship he is always telling me he is not dating and he is not ready to stress any girl Orr be in any committed relationship....he made it clear and I believed he wasn't dating.
But I noticed one girl who is always looking at me with envy, hatred,and jealousy. I could always see her pained in her eyes anytime we come for rehearsal at area district....my bestfriend and I attend the same church but different branch but the girl and my Best are in the same branch and this was me always thinking the girl has a crush on him.
I became so bothered because the way she was always looking at me like I stole something from her. Anytime we come for rehearsal, my ex bestfriend and I usually talk alot and hang out together...
I always tell him that I wasn't comfortable with the way that girl always look at me with so much hatred and anger because I don't even know her from Adam.
When I decided to finally open up and tell him that I wanted to talk to the girl to know what the problem was, that was when he told me....
Ha!!!!best, she is his daughter
I was like daughter ke?? You and this girl are basically of the same age and probably matured, nobody is anyone's daughter and nobody is fathering anyone... When I told my team about it, they told me to approach her.
When we approached her, we talked and she was like, *God forbid that she is not his daughter that they have been in 3years relationship now and we stood there as fools looking stupid and speechless... I left with so much anger in me, I felt so embarrassed and that was the day I stopped trusting him... When I was calm, I called him and asked him about it..... My guy still lied and denied..... I was really shocked ooooo..
I was asking myself, why the lies, and he kept lying for three weeks and after that I decided to tell him that we talked to her and she told us everything and how stupid he made is look like.... That was when he tried explaining to me that he lied because he was Afraid of losing me, but he still losed me anyways because I was tired of his lies...
I discovered a lot of lies he was hiding from me and I wasn't finding it funny ....
That was the worst lie of my life, I felt so bad because I really Trusted him with that truth, I believed him wholeheartedly... When I found out the truth which was not from him but this his girlfriend, I ended the friendship because he didn't worth it....
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Anyone would think that the two of you are in a relationship because why would he lie?
I was asking myself the same question!!!
Because why will he hide his 3years relationship from me and it made him look like he cheating on her..
Ómór....
Wow, that's crazy. Dating someone for three years and keeping it a secret from your best friend. I wonder what to make of that. Are you and him still close, or it's completely over?
Ómór.... It's completely over because anytime I try to keep the friendship in a church brother and church sister lane, he usually brings up the idea of us trying our friendship over again.... And I don't want that
I detest lies, you can't trust anyone who lies a lot you can imagine even when you approached him he still lied to you, it's very difficult to build the future with a lier
Na Wetin pain me be that.
He still lied on top the truth were I sabi already
I agree with you, friendships built on lies won't stand strong, even if they times fly by, it won't last.. Glad you were able to talk to the girl if not she for break your head🤣🤣🤣🤣
She almost fought me one day sef...
Infact, her eyes alone were evil.
Hmm 🤔 it's well, what an experience, there's no hope or future in a relationship without trust, truth, and transparency