Gild the lily

We, as human beings, are too strange. Maybe not everyone of us, but it applies to the majority, at least to the people of my continent. I wish we weren't like that; things would have been even more beautiful. There is a rural saying which is like, "We love to oil the oily head."

Recently, I had to attend an invitation, and we were warmly welcomed there; the hospitality was great, and we had to return with some gifts too. In return, my partner was planning what to give them, how to make them happy as well, and invite them as well. Okay, i dont mind inviting them or so, but the occasion she picked for that was my objection. During that time, there are more deserving people whom we should help, invite, and send some gifts as a token of love.

You know what, as per the plans, suppose we have spent around 100USD to host them, it will make them happy, but not as much as we are expecting. Why? Because that kind of hospitality/gifts means no difference or is not valuable. But, the other people, to whom even if I do spend only 20/30 USD and host it, will be made multiple times happier, and I will be satisfied.

I know, we can't leave one for the other. All I want is to prioritize the portion in need, not who is self-sufficient. Because it will mean less to that guy who has enough but it would mean a world for the guy on the struggling guy.

In our religion, Islam, we too have one core pillar, like "zakat", where it is to distribute 2.5 of the wealth after fulfilling all the needs and dependencies. We see the priority to distribute, starting from our near people, to distribute that doesn't harm their self-respect, or so, to ease the burdens. It is to distribute the wealth of the rich for the betterment of the people in need.

I have seen many people performing zakat and making people self dependant like, mostly by helping to start something from the little.

So, my concern was that we should stop prioritizing people who can live well off without even our help. Rather, try to make the guys happy and let them know they are prioritized as well. You know what? For the initial invitation part? I have given my verdict to invite those other guys, and then the stable people as pre planned.

Actually, it's due to the financial situation. In our society, financial status is what determines everything. I'm changing my mindset, won't be judging/prioritizing people based on their financial status, but rather on their honesty, and then need.

So yeah, this was a quick catch-up. From now on, evaluate people based on their honesty, not by poverty.