Societal Standard Vs Personal Choice
Marriage has always been one of the most significant experiences a young man can ever witness. I grew up understanding that after love and maturity comes marriage next in a young man's life. Basically, in my society, there are social standards for marriage that every young person needs to follow through, in terms of age and experience. Then, he or she is due to get married. Some communities even believe marriage should start from the age of 25 and above, but I believe marriage is more than that.
I believe there should not be any limit to marriage, and parents should decide the person their child wants to marry or be with in terms of love and connection. I grew up seeing parent decide who their children want to marry because of religion and culture, but life is more than what we see. Parents with these perspectives feel bad because life is more than that, and they are deciding for their children the life they want them to live, not knowing what life is. More than that, that decision can really hurt their child.
I am grown up and aged enough to marry but the economy makes me and my friend run away from marriage, even the law does not favour us the young men in this generation, can you imagine working for years then end up having a lady and having everything just because she saw someone better and still even need to pay child support. Seeing men in my society experiencing this and living a very sad life daily really makes men lose interest in marriage every day.
Marriage is a good feeling experience, I get to watch movies about and see good men experiencing it, but I don't think it is something I will ever want. Instead, I will just have a lady sign a prenup before anything because we men have really lost our rights in so many ways. A broken man with a broken heart, this is why we tend to experience a high suicide rate among men and most of the time it is because of experiences like this from women.
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Presently, I think less about marriage, and I just want to be rich and happy with my life. Life is good when there is peace of mind, either with a good woman or without her, life moves on one way or another.
I believe marriage should not be built on religion or personal belief; it's a matter of choice and decision, and it shouldn't be forced by society or people around. Life is good when we don't pressure people to think negatively. I have seen women who society pressures into getting married and now they really regret their decision because a lot of their dreams were killed. Marrying early, especially to the wrong person, can kill your dreams. This is why I see marriage as unnecessary from my own perspective, even though it feels like a good approach in life.
This is my Entry to Hive learners week 180 episode 3, weekly prompt.