Not The Traits I'd Love To Have Passed On

Okay, this may not go as the other entries for this topic I've read. A lot of us have so many great things to say about our parents, the wonderful traits we inherited that we are so grateful for. I do have a lot of it too but I just felt like sharing the few I wouldn't wish my kids will inherit.

Mind you, this is not me showing ingratitude to my parents in anyway or that I love them any less for making me inherit this from them. It's just that I am trying to be positive for my future kids and praying they live even much better than I would.

Just to keep a good justification, I have really wonderful traits directly from my mum and dad. I got my body build from mum, my jovial self from dad and I tend to take things as they come like my mum. These are what make me who I am among many others and I am grateful I have them, thanks to God and my parents.

It's amazing how I didn't get to live with mum as much as I did with dad but I grew up to be a lot like her than I am of my dad. Well, I shouldn't be so surprised when my brother seem to take a lot from my uncle (dad's elder brother) lol. I must say traits are powerful in how they play out in our lives, some are learnt when both individuals spend a lot of time together and I think one of the traits I don't like so much was gotten that way.

That being said, I have Traits I got, one each from dad and mum that I wouldn't want to be passed on to my kids for reasons I'll share in this post.

From Dad - Not being calculative of my expenses

This is not an all bad trait but I feel I would do even better if I didn't take this from dad. It's only recently dad has begin to show signs of being more calculative while spending but somehow, I have adopted that habit already and still finding it hard to limit it. Thankfully, this hasn't made me lose too much or spend more than I earn but I don't wish my kids to have it in the future.

It's a trait that won't do much good in the financial aspect of one's life but if put in control, one can be good to others and also spend below income means.

From Mum - Being easily affected or being weak

Mum is stronger and I bet it's because she has experienced more than I have but it's not new when I have weak stomach and a dramatic menstrual period because she had all that but it's been much better for her now as she grow older. I can't give count to the number of times I've prayed that all the stomach ache would go away whenever I'm faced with it.

Mum would always say "Why take this after me?" anytime I'm in pains and even know I may not understand fully how sad she feels about it, I know well enough that I don't want my kids facing it too. This trait is not one I can control but I pray it doesn't get passed on.

That's very much it for this topic, regardless, I'm grateful that I've grown to be who I am even with these traits and the awesome ones I got from my parents. My pray and plan is to lay a good foundation for my kids to learn good traits from me and hopefully get good ones too from those that can't be controlled.