Navigating The Mystery Of People We Thought We Knew

A song by Selena Gomez says "What hurts the most is people can go from people you know to people you don't" and I came to understand how deep these words are when I thought about it relating the words to what I've seen happening around people. Someone said, "Those close to us are the ones who hurt us more", it's just how it is.

We won't feel hurt or feel it much if someone we don't know hurt us because there have been bond created beforehand. But when we are faced with our loved ones becoming who we no longer are familiar with, it can be scary and unexplainable. I've once witness two girlfriends from childhood become sworn enemies after a heated up convo.

Even siblings go from people familiar to total strangers, I was so surprised to hear of two sisters who stopped communicating with each other since their fight over 9 years ago. They even boast about it anywhere they find themselves, saying they will never reconcile with each other. It had me wondering if their hearts had never loved.

From my personal experience growing with my siblings, there's no argument we couldn't reconcile from with time even if apologizing doesn't mend it. They say "Time heals wounds" and I think it's same for heated up arguments or fight that make familiar people become strangers but that doesn't seem to be the case for some.

Most of the cases where people go from people known to people not known is in romantic relationships. I've not had much experiences in it but with the few I've had, it really does happen a lot in that aspect of life. One time you're both promising each other everything, being happy and another time, you both walk past each other.

I've had a lot of such experiences where I look at someone and I realized how little I knew about the person. It happens a lot, even with my siblings. But in most of the cases, I understood them better or I learn to adjust to their changes. I believe people change and people also hide their true self until they are given the chance to exhibit.

It's hard to do life itself so I understand how people face so many challenges and somehow they change even without realizing it, loved ones suffer these changes so it causes rifts and then, friends become strangers. I think having conversations or trying to understand what could have been the factor for change is a way to go.

Nobody is above change and everyone of us have a new person in us to unleash when we are faced with what warrants it. You can't remain calm and unalert when you're always faced with dangers, you change to suit your situation. That's how it is with every other situations, it's only wise to make sure you change for the better and continue to find or give love as much as you can to others.

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