Men Are Allowed to Cry, Not Pressured To

Just big boys? What about big girls who have so much responsibilities on them? What about single mothers who choose to be silent about their struggles and see the time to cry as a waste of time? Every person who has to shoulder so much responsibilities but don't voice it out, should be allowed to cry, not just the big boys.

You could say women cry easily but from my experience, I've seen more women who don't cry than the ones who have but I guess even the small percent of women who have cried according to my knowledge is more than the men who have cried out which I think it's still normal.

The saying is popular "Men don't cry" and I can still remember the first and only time I saw my dad cry, it was almost traumatising for me as a little girl who is his eldest child and daughter. You can imagine how scared I was because I thought it was like the end of the road for my father to cry out. Well, the reason was enough to but I grew up to understand that many bear more than that.

Well, I'm not of the opinion that men should voice out more about their struggles, I mean I'm not supporting it fully. But if we're being honest, a lot of men have been coming out about it unlike before but what exactly has changed aside the perception that the man is weak or too emotional? I see it to be more in their disfavour.

But that thought is because the world has normalized crying for women and being always strong for men, which is not supposed to be. Even in the Bible, the man after God's own heart, a King (David) cried a lot, although it wasn't revealed most times how exactly he did it, if it was in public or privately but a man did cry a lot.

So asking men to cry or voice out in public, shouldn't be what should be encouraged but creating the awareness to them that it is okay to cry in their covers. They don't have to come out to cry, they can be the real humans they are inside their covers and that will save them from the weakness tag and also keep them healthy inside.

Yeah, that brings me to the health benefits of crying or shedding tears. Aside the fact that it relieves the burden in a moment, it also treats the eyes. I won't go in details for that but let the men consider that as a reason to let it go sometimes, it can be away from other eyes, but it's a choice.

Well, crying doesn't solve a problem. It is a only a sign that we are human and sometimes we get too weak to act as strong as we always have so we choose a moment of weakness that for many, it becomes a moment of realization or a good bounce back to become even stronger. What to note is that we all see shedding tears differently.

So if I had to watch a grown man cry because of what life is throwing at him, I wouldn’t mock him or feel uncomfortable. I would understand. But I also wouldn’t romanticize it or turn it into a movement that pressures other men to do the same like it's some kind of achievement to cry.

"Women love to cry" is not true, "Men don't cry" is also not true. But to an extent, there are truth to the sayings especially for the women and crying. The fact I'm pointing out here is, crying doesn't always have to be shedding tears and sometimes shedding tears doesn't mean crying. Well, I'll stop here and read what you have to say about it.

But my conclusion is, men are allowed to cry but it shouldn't be sounded out that they should cry, like it's an encouragement or sort of. Let them decide which works for them, to cry or not to cry.

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